Hi! So I celebrated my birthday a month ago at my place and invited friends but most of them ended up canceling because there was a snow storm that day. So to not end up by myself at my birthday party I invited this one girl I met through bumble bff ( we never met and I dont know her much ) so I figured at the same time we would get to know each other. Fast forward Some friends ended up coming and it was a good party overall. For more context i have a boyfriend and we live together and he was there for the party too. So the girl I met thru bumble bff ended up coming and turn out to be nice but we didnt talk much cuz she brought a friend with her. She met my boyfriend they talked for like 3min. Fast forward to 2 weeks after the party she adds him on Instagram randomly ( he was showing me something on his phone and her request popped up). Again this person is not my friend we dont even talk much or we havent even talked after my party and then i see her request on my boyfriend account I thought it was weird and just told my boyfriend to delete it. After he deleted it she blocked me. LOL. So AITAH for asking my bf to delete the request?
NTA for asking your BF to not strike up a friendship with another woman that he doesn’t even know.
NTA but also I don’t really like the concept of you monitoring your boyfriends Instagram request. He should know better how to handle unwanted attention and be faithful. If you can’t trust him and have to control who he interacts with, then why you dating him?
I’m sorry but everything is weird.
That was really weird of her. NTA. It would have been bad if you deleted it without him knowing, but you asked and he did it.
Stay off bumble bff, you invite total strangers over? Maybe I’m too old to understand this, but it just doesn’t sound like a good idea considering you don’t know if you’re inviting over a psycho, who will then know where you live. Make better choices. NTA
This! A Bumble for BFF’s? Yeah…nope.
OP – NTA. But, please find some organizations, or club meet ups and do that. I know my city has several club meet ups…for hiking trails, for biking trails, for walking (Mom’s). All out in public and you can meet them that way.
Nothing is inherently wrong with Bumble BFF… just don’t invite strangers over to your home for a first (or second or third) meet, regardless of how you met them. The same as a dating app.
NAH. Some people just like to increase the ‘friend’ numbers. Not on Instagram but in FB I get requests from people I barely know (maybe met once – not the ones who’s friend list reads like the UN phone book and are likely scammers) who just want a large friend’s list for some personal reason. If you’re uncomfortable with this and your BF doesn’t care (as he doesn’t know her), its fine.
The fact that she blocked her after her boyfriend declined makes it look suspect.
NTA but as others have said, stay off of bumble. Inviting strangers over is kinda wild tbh
Seems like it was a good call on your part. NTA.
INFO: age? I ask kind of because randomly inviting strangers you never met over to your home alone is very odd, except if you’re younger. Such as young 20’s and other person is young 20’s and goes to same schools and that sort of mixing is more standard I guess.
Instagram requests are two one way things. There’s probably a 50/50 chance that the boyfriend requested to follow her first, and she’s following him back later. This could have happened anytime between now and 2 weeks. Or other contact info exchanged. Since how did she know and remember his info to find him to begin with? Seems like there could be more.
Also: as a full grown adult, following someone on instagram ≠ dating them. But see some oddity that she didn’t request following you to start, unless you two really didn’t talk much at the party thing.
I am so torn here, OP, because you’re almost always the A-hole for telling your partner who they can be connected to, but in this instance, you were both there. It would depend, to me, on whether there was discussion or not.
There’s another necessary question here, OP, and that’s whether she follows you on IG or not.
IF she follows you there, and was trying to build more connections, then adding your BF is fine.
If she doesn’t follow you but searched up and added your BF and NOT you, that’s weird and fine.
I’m going to give you a very shruggy NTA.