So, about a year ago, my (F20) ex friend (F20) let’s call her Jonesy, came into contact with a guy, let’s call him (M20) Carl. Before they started dating, he started talking to me about a meme page he had been running for a long time. I didn’t really check it out then, because I’m not a huge fan of those. Anyways, when they first started dating, Jonesy confronted him because not only was the page fairly big, he was posting offensive content. For example, at that time, he made a reels post claiming " a real n*gga boutta enter the oval office". For context, Jonesy and Carl are not black, and I am. When she confronted him back then, he apologized to her and said he wouldn’t make posts like that again. Back then, I let her know I wasn’t cool with that or the fact he says the n word in real life, and she agreed. Well, low and behold, she must’ve had a change of heart, because she began liking, reposting, and commenting on his posts where he used the n word. Not only that, he made a really strange post where he edited a dudes shirt to say "(you can guess) everyone in the room". He made AI generated memes about Epstein and everything. I was mad, and annoyed at Jonesy for basically lying to me. It all came to a head very recently, where he posted, "will you be my n*gga for MLK day?" and I was completely over it. I reported his account to his university, and confronted Jonesy about her boyfriends behavior. He said I was attacking her by accusing him of being racist and refused to apologize whatsoever, so I cut her off as well. He has now taken all the posts down to try and delete evidence, and Jonesy tried to tell mutual friends that I was lying about the situation and acting crazy. Mutual friends are on my side, but say I could’ve been less harsh in my confrontation with Jonesy. One said I shouldn’t have reported his account to his university, but I’m sick of giving people chances and letting them get away with anything online due to being anonymous. So, is it too far? AITA for reporting his account to his school?
NTA
Simple judgment. That kind of blatant racism deserves exactly the consequences he got.
You know the answer. Never anything wrong with reporting bigotry and beyond offensive content.
I’m sorry you lost your friend (and that you had to see what you did); but she made choices to support the grossness, showing she is a-ok with it. Especially bad because she knew the impact on you for the bigoted poopage. She chose Carl over you and wrong instead of right.
I hope you took screenshots before the takedowns to show anyone questioning.
Why is he mad? That is who he is. If he’s going to post that kind of s\*\*t, he needs to own it.
NTA but you already know that – bigots want to be bigoted until they learn “freedom of speech” doesn’t mean “freedom from consequences,” and that most people actually actively dislike racists, and want to see them go down from karma.
He met his karma. It’s okay if you jump started it, it would’ve happened sooner or later, but it’s not your fault he is facing the consequences of his actions. And you know, and we know, he doesn’t regret his actions, only that he could get in trouble from them.
NTA. Zero consequences is exactly why they feel comfortable coming out in public again. They need more FAFO. You did the right thing.
This moron is in *university*? Is his daddy buying his degree?
‼️‼️ you’ve got to be kidding me!!! That kind of bullshit he said for Martin Luther Kind Day is offensive in So Many ways
NTA , not by any means!!! You did the right thing. Dude is racist, toxic, and dangerous if he’s somehow influencing people like it sounds