Hi everyone.
I, 26F work for a well known insurance company in my country and I’ve worked here for almost 4 years. We’ve gone through many managers in the time that I’ve worked here. Other than that, I enjoy the work and like the people I work with (not for).
The issue arose in the middle of last year where everyone was packed with work and it seemed like more work and deadlines kept coming, everything was marked as "priority".
Staff had concerns, because out of everything we do, what should we actually be prioritizing. We never received clarity on that, to this moment. I started feeling overwhelmed, stressed out and anxious about dates. This is where I decided to start updating my resume and started my job hunting.
When I submitted my resignation (1 calendar month notice was given), I was met with questions like "why?", "is the pay better", "we can’t afford to lose anybody atm". I held firm and requested my resignation approval. This was 3 weeks ago.
I’m a pretty no confrontational person and usually just kept to myself and trying to get through my work. I know leaving makes everyone’s loads a bit more weighty but in the end, I need to consider my mental health.
So Reddit, AITA?
NTA, you don’t owe your job anything
A company overworking their staff so hard they quit is a them problem, not a you problem
NTA. Typically short staff crises are planned and intentional. You can only handle so much
NTA
Youre never the ah for leaving a job, along with giving proper notion. Its their job to get their work done and get the proper amount of staff for it. Them trying to play you says enough.
Enjoy youre new job!
Definitely nta.
You have more than fair warning of your intention to leave. Your loyalty should be to your physical and mental health and not an organization of which you really are not a priority just a convenience.
NTA, Their staffing issues, poor management, and poor resourcing are not your concern.
NTA. It’s sounds like an extremely poor management team. They should be doing things to retain staff in a proactive manner.
NTA
jobs will literally let you go with little to no notice, but expect you to give them notice and then try to guilt you into staying. im so proud of you for taking care of your mental health 🤍
they will be fine. they can and will find a replacement quickly- jobs just don’t like the effort of interviewing and training new people these days. i wish you the absolute best on your new journey ✨
Their ‘short staff crisis’ is a management failure, not a you failure. If the ship sinks the moment you step off the deck, it wasn’t a ship,it was a decorated rock.
Enjoy your month-long victory lap. Whenever they ask you where a specific file is during your last week, just look them dead in the eye and say, ‘I marked my exit as a Priority, I thought that was the only status we used here?’
Nta. If somehow the roles were reversed they would drop you no questions asked. Or give you the workload of several people with no financial incentive. I went that road once. Don’t let yourself be used.
NTA. Resignation approval? You don’t need approval to resign.
In our country, you do. So basically what happens is, I submit my resignation and my notice period, my manager then starts the exiting process which means the resignation has been approved. I did not reach that step yet, my request is still pending approval.
Wtf. No one cant force u to stay
And the consequences of leaving without approval? They surely can’t make you stay, that’s essentially making you work under duress. The only thing I can think they could do is not pay any annual leave and not give you a reference.
The fact that they said “we can’t afford to lose you” and not “what do we need to do to keep you?” is all you need to know.
However you phrased it, you were ultimately saying “my life is worse if I stay” and they didn’t try to negotiate more money or less work. So You’re done there. You’re not your job, you just *have* a job. And if they can’t see you as a human you owe them no humanity in return. Contract is ended, that’s it.