I (18F) am currently living in a cheap university dorm room. I share a wall with “Jessica” (fake name, 19F). Jessica is, to be as blunt as possible, very loud. She frequently blasts music from her speakers at random intervals throughout the day, invites her boyfriend over constantly and frequently gets into loud arguments with said boyfriend almost every other day. The walls in our apartment building are paper thin so noise travels VERY easily, so I have to hear just about everything. I usually just ignore her, I don’t think she’s actively trying to be annoying, I think she just doesn’t realize how thin our walls are.
Three days ago, however, Jessica decided to throw a party, she had a bunch of friends over and was blasting a bunch of music. I ignored her throughout most of the evening but the issue is that her party hadn’t quieted down and it was almost 11pm. I walked over to her room, knocked on her door and asked her to keep the noise down, she said okay, and then proceeded to turn the volume on her speakers up. I was pissed, but figured I could just try to ignore her and hope that the party would die down. Then midnight came around and she was still partying. So I said fuck it, and I walked downstairs into the dorm’s security office and complained. The security guard walked up to her dorm, kicked everyone out and gave her an earful for breaking campus rules (for context: my campus has very strict rules about letting guests sleep over. We’re only allowed one guest per night and the guest has to sign a guest list at the security office. This chick had 6 people over. I don’t even know how she got 6 people to even FIT into a dorm, those things are TINY. We’re also not allowed to blast music any time between 8 pm and 8 am but I guess she just forgot about those rules.)
Anyways, party ended and I finally got some goddam sleep. The next morning, however, while I was taking out the trash, I ran into Jessica, who proceeded to give me an earful on how I “ruined her birthday party”. I told her that I didn’t care about her party, that some people had school and work in the morning, and that she’s not some 16-year-old and should know better than to host loud parties at 12 am on a WEDNESDAY ffs. She tried arguing with me some more but I just walked back to my dorm.
I feel like I was 100% in the right, but my friends and family have very mixed opinions. Most of them agree with me but some of them think I should have just put on my noise cancelling headphones and just ignored her. So Reddit, was I the asshole?
NTA at all. It’s a no-brainer.
“Jessica” is a real piece of work.
NTA. Jessica’s behaviour was antisocial and completely unacceptable.
NTA – F her.
NTA- college is for growing up and learning life lessons. She needs to learn she’s not the main character and needs to think about how her actions impact those around her. And kudos to you for rocking the boat and standing up your needs! If she decides to escalate, talk to the neighbors around her to see what they think of her noise and maybe you all can have an intervention.
NTA.
Surely this Jessica signed an agreement to follow the rules when she moved in?
If she can’t follow a few simple rules and doesn’t have any respect for other people, then balls to her.
Those rules are there for a reason. To ensure peaceful co-habitation for people who want to study and succeed at that college. She was breaking those rules and probably annoying more people than just you. Concequences would have come sooner or later and you just stood up for yourself and your right to peace.
NTA, I think the people saying you could have stuck it out are just people-pleasers to the extent of their own detriment. Why should you be uncomfortable so someone else can do things they shouldn’t anyway?
NTA. She violated the rules and was being a nuisance.
NTA, Jessica is a huge inconsiderate A-hole.
NTA. Noise curfews are for a reason.
I’ve been “Jessica” once (not my party, but I’m one of the people who lived in the apartment) and it was embarrassing to have people knock on the door, but we were breaking noise curfew rules so we deserved to have the party shut down. I’d hope that is I am ever bothering someone’s sleep and peace, I’d be pulled up.
The fact you asked her to turn the music down at first was incredibly sweet of you, but she burned that bridge by being loud. My petty a$$ would report noise every time she’d bother me after that.
You tried being friendly first. Eff her. NTA.
NTA. You asked her to keep it down, she ignored you and turned it up, and she was clearly breaking dorm rules. You didn’t ruin her party, her own choices did. Noise-canceling headphones aren’t a requirement for you to tolerate someone else being disrespectful on a weekday night. You handled it reasonably
1000% in the right!! NTA! She’s an adult in the real world now. She needs to learn that the world revolves around its axis not her ass
No – she was.
That’s what the weekends are for.
Campus security here you absolute did the right thing it’s a frequent thing and you aren’t her only neighbor i guarantee other people feel what you do and don’t say anything to keep the peace as a rent a cop we really have no power but it is absolutely fantastic when we can tell someone no