hi! just wanted to start this by saying that i am autistic and have trouble wording/explaining my side
so i have a friend group which consists of me and 2 other girls (all 15 f) lets call them rose and riley, i met riley at the end of my first year at school and we became friends immediately and become closer the following year and then we met rose. i want to mention that i am arab and it’s kind of rare to find someone fluent in english like me so I don’t have trouble in english at all and I’ve always stood out for this at school.i met riley in my first year too but we were just aquaintances because i had really bad social anxiety at the time no one knew i even existed. i befriended her because we were both interested in reading the difference between us is that she isnt fluent she just studies before every lesson so she can participate while I don’t have to study (im not trying to sound pretentious i swear) and my english teacher taught my sister before me so she treated me a bit different because i was the best in class plus she loved my sister. and rose wanted to get close to me so she can notice her (she admitted to this). i started getting bullied because the girls in my class thought i was "doing too much" and being full of myself so i would cry about it to rileyand then rose started getting bullied for the same reason so riley rose and i told our headmaster about it and the girls got scolded and stopped. thats how we became friends. anyways a month ago rose lost her mom because of her abusive father (he’s locked up now) and she generally comes from a bad family because her brother is a junkie and her grandma also passed away. Riley’s mom also passed away and I’ve comforted them both through it and it made us closer, the problem is that rose has always been a bit much. she’s my friend and i love her but she does things that irk me, i told riley about it and she agreed and we talked to her about it but it doesn’t even matter because she just starts doing it again a few days later. one example of this is being really weird to male teachers specifically she rated them based on attractiveness which is weird to me because male teachers to me are like fathers and it just makes me uncomfortable?it feels weird to me because we’re arab and its kind of frowned upon to be close with males if they’re not related to you. riley and i tried to have a talk with her about this and she stopped for a few days and then went back to doing it again. this is before her mom died anyways fastforward to now we finished midterms and we ask her what she’s gonna do on break and she starts gushing about how shes gonna go to another province to see her cousins and how she’s been texting her male cousin about it (people get married to their cousins here its extremely normalized)i ask her if she wants to come over to my house & she just wont stop talking about him and i told her that its making me uncomfortable but she just shrugs it off ik this seems immature but still
I beg you friend, format and paragraphs go a looooooong way
sorry will try to remember that for next time!! 💔💔
I think you’re being reasonable. Keep your boundaries
Just because you have some things in common with someone doesn’t mean you have to be their friend. It honestly sounds like you don’t like this person very much.
There’s no conflict here? 🤷♀️
Culture aside, Rose is going through A LOT. At 15 it’s normal to have crushes and want to gush about them, however, the rating male professors by attractiveness is, less normal. You mention her father murdered her mother, is it possible she’s acting out “sexually” (not actually sexually but more than your cultures societal norms) As a coping mechanism? Either way she needs professional help.
Her father murdered her mother and she needs to do therapy about it.
ETA: Slight YTA, leaning NAH. Its… a lot. Especially at 15.