I (22m) and my roommate (22m) have a pretty consistent and non-eventful relationship. We started college at the same time and in our senior year he became my roommate in my apartment. It is a one bedroom and I have a large dog(Siberian husky) so I chose to give him the bedroom as her(the dogs) stuff takes up a good amount of space.
For about a year we had no issues until he dropped out of college(pricy private school) and got a girlfriend(20f) and allowed to essentially move in. Upon my request after seeing the utilities bill, he asked her to split rent but said she would threaten to leave him anytime him inquired for us to split the rent in 3 so he decided to cover 2/3s himself.
After a few months of working and no school he got her pregnant and now there are 2 additional people living with my roommate that I did not anticipate. I try to be accommodating and nice because DC rent is far too expensive to afford on my own, so I do not make an issue of this.
My roommate is from Florida and had complained about the AC being 70 or below countless times claiming it is too cold. I keep the AC at 70-72 and I keep the fan on constantly because I will not live in stagnant air. It is unhealthy and if the fan is not running I wake up out of my sleep every night sweating, despite sleeping less than a foot from an open window. After a few months of going behind me to turn the fan off and realize I wake up out of my sleep from the heat to turn it back on he gave up.
Now that he has a baby he is claiming that 70-72 degrees in the apartment is “too cold for the baby.”
This is obviously very stupid. After his baby mother said this to me I responded with “You turned the fan and heat off, no baby has ever gotten sick from 70 degrees Fahrenheit, when you turn them both off the apartment becomes colder, you are making it colder by turning it off, you don’t realize it because stagnant air is warmer at the start, look up whether stagnant or flowing air is better for your baby”
My girlfriend thinks I was too rude, so AITA, and how do I communicate how depressingly stupid their lies are?
I’m sorry but the moment I found out she was pregnant they’d both have to go
So you live in a 1 bedroom apartment with 4 other people AND a baby on the way?
What? The two people are the baby and girlfriend
Hold up. 3 adults, a dog, and a baby in a one bedroom apartment? Also, who uses the air conditioner in the middle of winter in DC? I’m skeptical this post is real.
Maybe he just uses a/c in place of thermostat? I’m in the Midwest and don’t use a/c in my house in the winter, but unless it’s negative temps with high winds I keep the thermostat between 66 and 68. At work, however, I run the a/c year round.
Its an apartment. Its actually the hvac because this is really about heating and both heat & a/c are controlled by the thermostat.
NTA
However, there’s no way this is going to work out well. Is the girlfriend on the lease? If she’s not, that could turn into a massive problem with all of you losing a place to stay. As a mom, I can also tell you that you will absolutely not want to live with a newborn. They will wake you up throughout the night and every day. I also wouldn’t be surprised if they start pushing you out of the apartment and this is just one of the first arguments of many to come. I’d buy a tower fan (assuming you don’t have one) to tide you over and keep the peace while you suss out other possible living arrangements.
She is not a legal tenant. Stop making things easy for them. Tell them the temp will not be changed and your fan will not be turned off again or you will report to the landlord that two unauthorized people are living there and she will be thrown out. You are over capacity list likely for what is allowed in a one bedroom so time to play hardball.
NTA I think your situation really sucks and your roommate and his family need to move out ASAP. [by ASAP i don’t mean kick them out, i mean they have to start looking NOW]
Btw I googled it, [Here](https://www.webmd.com/baby/what-is-the-right-room-temperature-for-a-baby) it says 68-70 Fahrenheit is great for a baby and that overheating is linked to sudden infant death. Make them do research too and crosscheck several sites, of course, i just looked at the one!
If they won’t listen to facts, they have to find their own place where they can do what they want.
Youre allowed to like your apartment at one temperature and they are allowed to like a different temperature.
You are wrong for acting like they see stupid. They are not stupid. They have a different thermal preference than you.
But you should definitely move apart.
NTA. Talk to your landlord. You need to get her (and him) removed and get another roommate. Or find another apartment with an acceptable roommate situation. This living arrangement is not sustainable and they will keep ganging up on you. You never signed on to live with a newborn. If they play the guilt card saying you will be making her homeless, point her to social services.
NTA. They treat you like a guest in your own home. Also, how are 3 adults, 1 child and a large dog living in a one BR apartment? WTF? They need to go.
Nta when does your lease expire who is on the lease?
Start planting the seed now. He needs to get out