I was born and raised in Washington State. I am F/40, and DH is M/37 (yes, I’m older). About 18 years ago (I was 22), my then-husband, now ex-husband, moved me down to GA. I am sure you can figure out why, as I can’t post why here. I had my daughter with me, rebuilt our lives, and remarried my now DH. Together, we had 2 more kids, bringing the total to 3. This part is just some backstory to the question.
I had always planned to return to my home state, but we stayed in GA as long as we had due to MIL’S ongoing health issues. Making my DH want to stay close to his family at the time, I agreed, but with the understanding that GA was not my goal. I told him, even at the start, I did not plan to make GA my permanent residence. I don’t like it here; every day I am here, it causes me increasing stress.
My in-laws really wanted me and DH to have kids, it was a challenge as I have PCOS, but we managed to have our first son together 4 years ago ( he considers my daughter as his child,d but they were talking blood related and preferably a boy to pass on the family name). That being said, my DH and I have started looking for jobs and places to rent back home, as we don’t want to move without our ducks in a row. That being said, my family has not even gotten to meet my youngest as my dad works all the time and my mother is diabled and cant fly easly and without pain.. and I hit 40 this year..
Well, today we sat my MIL and FIL down and told them about our plans to move, and that we have already started putting things in motion. They knew some day we would I have not kept it from them that it was the eventual plan.
My in-laws were not happy, calling me irresponsible; they said it was a bad time to move, that we were giving up good jobs, and that we were taking their grandbabies away and being selfish for doing that. (Mind you, my SIL has kids too) I told them too bad it’s happening.
I feel like I have spent years putting his family first, and now that I want to move back to my home, they are making me feel guilty about it.
I need to know. **AITA for not listening to them and moving my family back to Washington?**
NTA
I thought this was going to be a different post where DH doesn’t want to move. It’s refreshing that he’s listened to you and is on board despite the fact that his parents clearly haven’t. It sounds like you have a keeper. You absolutely have the right to move closer to your family. Can your in laws travel to see the kids often?
Yeah, hubby’s a keeper. I knew that from the moment he and I started dating: he treated my daughter with respect, brought her along, and got her gifts when we went out. Once we were engaged, he started calling her his daughter and helped me fight for custody. Even at 19 shes still daddys little girl ( not in a creepy way. Had to add that as this is the internet.)
As for my in-laws, they are far better off than my family, including financially, but they “don’t like to travel.” I tried to offer for them to you know, look at moving too, as they are both retired, and I think the clean air in Washington would be better off for MIL’s lung issues… but they say its too “Libral” up there and in their words “Washington is run by libtards” -\_-
Oh no, how awful that you won’t see them as much …