I(22f) went to my(26f) friends house, im gonna say kathrine is her name. we were all having some drinks and a good time. It was me and kathrine and her 3 of our mutual friends, 2 women and 1 man other than kathrines husband(25m). the only one relevant we will call Joan(24f).
We go to smoke up in her bathroom. it’s kinda nasty the toilet is stained and the counters are covered in weed, black resin, and stuff. There’s this mint sitting there by the nasty sink ledge, we finish our tokes and the joint we had burning and head out into the living room. After we played a game (one of those dollar iphone games for parties) all of a sudden she kind of caught an attitude with me and Joan and her husband who were all on the same team. I don’t know why we were all just having fun and laughing until she got into a mood.
Then Joan asked her if shes ok and whats going on, she said "this doesnt even involve you" and glared at me?!?i was " like what did i do" and she was like "like i dont see what you are doing" and i was like wtf are you talking about and then she said "stay like 6 feet away from my husband ok" all snarky and i was like what do you mean me and him have been friends for longer than youve known him if i wanted him id still have him " (we used to date when I was like 16). She said "clearly you want him" and stormed into the bathroom and me and Joan and her husband walked to the kitchen like wtf and our 2 other friends went with her.
Later they came back out without Katherine and she spent another like 10 minutes in there pouting until Joan started knocking on ther door like come on we are going to leave if you are going to be in there for the rest of the night. She comes out all calm and offers everyone a mint, I was like haha that looks like the mint in the bathroom but she gave everyone one so surely it’s not the bathroom mint, so I ate it.
Maybe half an hour later when we are smoking up again I notice the mint is gone from that nasty sink, and I’m pondering on it. So I asked Joan privately about it and she was like no you don’t think she did that right and I was like she’s so calm now when has she ever got over anything anyone said. Joan gave me a look and asked what did it taste like, I was like minty? She was like mine was licorice flavored not really minty so I asked around and everyone got a licorice mint??
So I asked her I was like what the fuck why would you give me a dirty bathroom mint and her and our other two friends kinda got a smirk like they were trying to hide smiles and Kathrine just laughed in my face and was like that’s what you get. "I was like for what I don’t want your man at all, been there done like, for a year" and she told me to get out and I asked him if I should leave because it’s his house and he said I don’t have too but it got awkward so me and everyone left pretty quickly after. Noticeably upset imo and she never even reached out
Edits for readability and the part I cut out instead of copying in the first writing
Context: pretty much everyone in our friend group has slept together so we don’t usually take it that seriously. It’s a very Bisexual group and some of us get around, all our mutual friends there have been with her husband except for Joan, but I see how that was vindictive.
YTA for how this story is written… let alone anything else.
YTA. you have no respect for their relationship. You leveraged the fact that you’ve known him longer than her and used to date as a teen. She is his wife.
YTA I felt I was on a fairground ride, my eyes are strained, my head spinning and I want to throw up.
I could not make sense of your ramblings. But from the feel of your post, you did something you are not telling us.
What is a bathroom mint? Why are there multiple flavors?
It’s candy (wrapped or in jars) people leave out for guests so they can freshen their breath while visiting the restroom.
ESH. You both acted like children. “If I wanted him I could have him” said to the man’s wife? You’re not a sulky teenager anymore and supposed to be more mature. She went too far with the bathroom mint too. You all should stay away from eachother, you clearly bring out the worst in eachother. And you all have some growing up to do.
I just had a stroke from attempting to read this. I have no idea what happened or the origin story of the mint.
That may have been the worst written thing I’ve ever read.
YTA and NTA
Well number one I am confused on what a bathroom mint even is.
However I feel like we need more context here. It seems like you are leaving something out. She just jumped up out of nowhere and started saying you were trying to get with her husband ? Are you sure you weren’t touching him in anyway and she got the wrong idea ?
Anyways I would say you are a soft asshole because if you are actually friends with katherine I think it’s really weird to mention how you’ve known her husband longer and if you wanted him you’d still have him right in front of both of them. That seems like you were jumping to harsh insults very quickly and makes it seem like you could still get her husband if you wanted.
YTA nobody who says “if I wanted your husband, I’d still have him” is as naive/innocent as you’re pretending to be. Tell us what actually happened during the game.
lol girl…
> i was like what do you mean me and him have been friends for longer than youve known him if i wanted him id still have him
before you said this, i would have said NTA. but whatttt? “if i wanted him i would still have him” is a crazyy thing to say about someone else’s husband, especially TO HER FACE.
idk what the business with the mint was but i’m surprised you didn’t get slapped. extremely weird group you’ve got that the whole games night continued uninterrupted with all this antagonism going on. you should get new friends, this whole situation is fucked. katherine is jealous (and possibly has a tendency to poison people!!?). and she brings out the worst in you. like fr you don’t want to be the person who says shit like that, because people will wise up about how horrible it is you will not have any friends before long.
ESH
Um, a bathroom mint is the thing in the bottom of a urinal… not a mint in a bathroom.
I liked that you edit for readibility but somehow, I felt I’m having stroke reading your post
Ok so it’s an actual mint, not a urinal deodorizer?
YTA, and learn to write. Start with small sentences and work your way up. You’re doing the opposite and it’s awful to try to read.