Hi guys first time posting hope it works.
Basically, old dude a gym was being a dick, meanwhile me just being straight forward.
Lmk thoughts! Thank you
When I entered the gym at 12pm he was sitting at the lat pull down cables
I waited for him to finish, and finished 3 full exercises, and kindly asked him to share the machine
He asked me if I will change handles I said yes but I will change back.
He said he doesn’t want to share because it’s a waste of time. I ask him, what do you mean not share? – it’s gym etiquette.
He shrugged and said “too bad”
So I told the staff. A tall lady spoke to him, but he spent the time throwing back handed comments about me “not being flexible about handle grips” and “no wonder you are so skinny”.
Finally he told the staff, “I offered to change handles for him but he doesn’t want to”.
I cut in and simply said “no I offered to change them but you refused to share”.
To which he replied “not happy? Too bad!”.
Recognizing his body language(I’m ex military), I decided to leave the gym, for it seemed I had embarrassed him to the point of him wanting to fight, and I have no time to get into childish fights with a 40+ yo man child.
TLDR:
All I was doing was asking him to share.
But he gave me attitude, raised his voice, back handed comments, and insults and even trying to escalate things into a fight. That’s just poor behavior and the lack of any gym etiquette.
Nta. Its a public place not his own private gym.
Thanks! It helps to know. Somebody gotta call out these entitled people sheesh
Nta, but personally, I would have let him escalate with staff there so that he could possibly be banned.
Maybe next time 😵
Yeah, I’m sure you’re not the first he’s been rude to.
ESH…gym etiquette is not official law. You ask he said no, should have been the end of it. But then you go and tattle on him.
NTS he is. Gym etiquette is you get to change the handles and you can leave them for the next person to do whatever they want. You also get to work in between sets. Of course you wipe it all down as well. The guy is a**hole here. But don’t fight him even if he takes a swing. Call the cops and press charges which will make his life miserable and you won’t get arrested. Record it if you must. Or better yet stay away from him during your workout.
Thanks man. I ain’t got time for that tho 🤣 just wanna get in and get out
Sooo…. he’s an asshole.
Where’s the question here?
NTA, I’m not sure what your question is, but if I read it right, you’re not the asshole for leaving the gym.
NTA. If they take that long, don’t ask just work in.
Got it!
It seems fairly obvious that this man who refused to obey community standards and wanted to fight you was an AH. The question is – were you?
It’s not clear to me what your other options were – just accepting AH treatment is not morally required. Physical violence is also not morally required here. So I think you’re in the clear. NTA