so this happen like 2 years ago but sometimes i still wonder if what I done is bad ? I had this one friend let’s call her Lucy. one day me & her decide let’s go hang out & play together , we decide to meet up at cafe. So during the day, 70% Lucy is busy with her laptop & chatting with her friend on discord & mostly ignoring me. She won’t talk that much either unless i’m the one start conversation. So i got disappointed & sad for being mostly ignored cause I used to have a problem with me being bullied back then. i make like a personal post on facebook with friends only post about how i disappointed my friend ignoring me sort of like that, i also didn’t write any name who i actually wrote about.
Couple days later I notice Lucy unfollow & unfriend me on discord. It just so happen i actually friended her BF on facebook. I try to ask him & apparently her BF show that personal post to Lucy. Lucy got angry like how I don’t consider her having need to spend money & time to go to that cafe & she already apologized for ignoring me. What actually kinda baffle me how her BF just say “it’s your problem not mine” which not wrong but also.. what ?? Just in case, the cafe we use to meet up, we BOTH agree & she’s also the one picking it. Lucy also said she doesn’t like if someone had problem with not talking to her in face, but she also secretly just unfriend me out of nowhere. so.. sometime i wonder if i’m wrong / there is something else ??
Thank you
Edit : i want to make sure as much what i post is bad, the post isn’t public. It’s friend list only post ( easy way like close friend on IG ) and the one show that post is her BF
You weren’t wrong for being upset, but you chose the shittiest way to go about expressing it if you wanted to keep being friends. What were you expecting to accomplish by putting it out there for everyone to see?
YTA – sure she was rude, but instead of talking to her about it you chose to write it online. that’s very passive aggressive and she followed your lead. just talk like normal human beings c’mon
ESH
She was wrong for making plans with you and mostly ignoring you. You also handled it pretty poorly by making a post on facebook. That was completely uneccessary.
YTA. That’s the most passive aggressive way of handling conflict and it’s unsurprising that she noped out of the friendship after seeing how you speak about people.
ESH you weren’t wrong about being upset but you posted about it on Facebook? Girl. You should’ve just talked to her like a normal person OR maybe not post your feelings on FB where potentially everyone could see it.
I think things kinda people miss out the post is “friends only” so anyone not inside my friend list can’t see it. Yea it’s still bad for me to post that but that post is not public
Oh, my sweet summer child. Anything you put on the internet is free game and public, as you found out when he showed your “friends only”post to someone else. It is not hard to screen shot and send.
This doesn’t make it any better😭
So? How does that make it any less bad? The issue was that people YOU KNOW see it and know who you’re talking about. Strangers seeing it doesn’t change anything. Come on, this is common sense.
The grammar is confusing me here but it seems like you both have issues that need to be figured out
NTA. You expressed your feelings about being ignored in a private post and it sounds like you were hurt by Lucy’s behavior during your time together. You’re allowed to share your feelings, especially when you felt sidelined. It’s unfortunate that her boyfriend chose to show your post to her which escalated the situation, but you didn’t name her or call her out directly. Lucy’s reaction seems more about her discomfort with being criticized rather than a genuine concern about your feelings… Overall it seems like a misunderstanding that spiraled out of control due to a lack of direct communication.
NTA everyone need 2 vent
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