My boyfriend 22 male and I 23 female have been going out for about 3my years and JJ’s parents have never really like me for the last year and a half his grandmother has blatantly ignored me when I walk in and greet her and I want to know if I don’t greet the grandmother anymore will I be the asshole (JJ said just ignore her and my father said I must still greet to not make things hard) would like to know some opinions
nta. why would you say hi to someone just so they can ignore you?
this is none of your dad’s business, and you are not the one making things hard.
What?? lol
YTA. Michelle Obama’s advice is always good. If grandmother is going low, you go high. Always greet her, be polite. Give her NOTHING to complain about in your conduct. Make her comes to terms with the fact that her dislike of you is irrational and that SHE is creating the conflict with her rude behaviour.
It FEELS like you should ignore her if she ignores you. The better response is to not let her get away with it. Greet her politely EVERY SINGLE TIME. Make her have to work to ignore you, and make it impossible for her to be able to say “Look, see, she didn’t greet me, the rude girl.”
Well put. Malicious politeness!
Out of curiosity is there a reason they don’t like you?
But YWNBTA as while every person deserves a level of respect generally respect is earned not a right and if they are icing you out for no reason and being disrespectful you don’t have to give them respect they haven’t earned.
You do however need to have a sit down with your boyfriend if you see yourselves staying together and creating a life together. He needs to handle his family and stand up for you.
I mean if his parents don’t like you, his grandma doesn’t like you, but you still come around id greet them to show respect. You’re still (presumably) entering *their* home. Just seems like the right thing to do. If you’re getting mean mugged when you greet them, then no, don’t just because it might come off as fake to them, which would only make their dislike worse.
NTA. Respect gets respect.
YTA for using stream of consciousness to type that and not using a single punctuation mark anywhere in that. Write in sentences! Use commas! No one can understand your rambling without them.
I have dyslexia so reading and writing is really hard for me i try my best I am so sorry about the punctuation
If someone doesn’t treat you with respect, by a simple greeting then you treat them in kind. Don’t greet them. Don’t offer respect at the expense of your dignity and feelings. It’s 2026. You don’t have to be rude, but certainly don’t need to give kindness, respect or be polite to someone who is downright rude to you.
NTA
Why do you hate sentences?
Is English not your first language…? Genuinely asking
NTA. Don’t go over to their houses. Your bf can visit them w/o you