I live in the san fernando valley in LA county CA . for context . Ice raids , kidnappings , assault happens every day out here unfortunately . So i feel like me wanting my daughter home instead of out in the streets at 10pm is valid . As well as being in the valley you can google the crimes happening daily . You don’t think it’s going to happen to you until it does , so I’d rather be safe than sorry .
My bestfriend gifted me sweethearts night tickets. I have a daughter 12 that i needed a sitter for , yes she’s old enough to care for herself but my husband insisted , I paid Kai 100$ to watch her at my house, Kai insisted to watch her there because Summer can go to bed in her own room and be comfortable
Super bowl sunday unfortunately. I left my sisters house Linda with my daughter Summer there to get dropped off at my house with Kai as I didn’t want Kai driving back home so late as I told them I wouldn’t get home until 2am . Linda agreed said she didn’t want her driving so thanks for figuring that out . Linda assured me she would pick up her daughter from work Jay , so Kai could babysit.
After the super bowl my mom and dad were supposed to drop off Summer and Kai at my house . It’s 7:30 I check my daughters location she’s at Lindas house. i call and ask what’s going on you should be home , she says she has to go with my niece Kai to pick up Jay from work . She also takes my nephew Zeke along to get Jay .
Instead Linda got drunk with her friends and family. Something she can do whenever because she’s recently divorced & is living her life and all this . these tickets are not cheap and they’re for one night only , i don’t ask my siblings for anything and i do everything for them.
Kai picks up Jay at 8pm Summer is supposed to be in bed by 10 the latest. they’re at target for an hour and a half no real adult supervision & with times like this with s3x trafficking i felt uncomfortable with her being out thats why i gave instruction to be home to Kai
Im visibly upset because I just wanted tonight to go smoothly instead of watching Summer go from location to location . They’re at Target until 10 when summer tells Kai she wants to go home . Jay tells Summer when your mom is babysitting us she can tell us when to leave . im paying Kai to watch my child . What i say should go! So AITA for being upset, that Linda disregarded everything I asked and even what she wanted which was to keep Kai from driving late at night just because she drank and Kai had to be responsible ?
On my way home she texts me “are they supposed to just get up and get ready for school at this point?” It’s two am . I didn’t think two kids would be at my house as well that had school . So she’s upset with me because Jay and Zeke have school but they’re at my house late . Mind you i didnt have to have Jay & Zeke at my house along with Summer and Kai, that was her choice so she’s upset with me because they have school when this wasn’t the plan for them to be at my house late. Kai doesn’t have school anymore so I was willing to drive her home after i came back from disneyland . She hasn’t texted me at all just to pick up Zeke from school for her . I wasn’t upset they were at my house . I always welcome them over . Just that she was mad at me for something i had no control over and wasnt responsible for
I failed to mention . Kai doesn’t have a license she has a permit . So for Linda to put the responsibility on Kai is not okay . Maybe that’ll clear off why I was upset Kai was out late as well
YTA
I have pretty much zero clue what this post is about. Try again, this is plain awful and impossible to follow.
Yta for how incomprehensible this post is
I am find the details of this a little hard to follow. Whatever feelings you have are fine, you’re NTA for feeling whatever you feel. What is the nugget here? Like did you blow up at her or what? I am confused by why you think you’re an asshole here
So it definitely seems like you’re NTA. Your sister should not have been drinking so that she could go pick up her other daughter. Your niece however, seems pretty horrible. She was paid to do a job and was given explicit instructions on how to do said job. She completely disregarded your rules and even decided that you actively telling her to take your kid home wasn’t worth anything compared to her little late night shopping trip.
I wouldn’t really trust her with this kind of thing again, and if you haven’t already paid her, I wouldn’t. She failed miserably, she doesn’t deserve the money
How about you rewrite this rambling mess and leave out all the extra BS.
Its way to hard to follow.
NTA but the formatting was hard to follow
I have absolutely no idea what happened. This post was incomprehensible.
I am 100% positive this is not AI. However, based on what I am able to understand, it seems that your niece or daughter can drive, so I am pretty sure you might be treating decently competent older children like toddlers. Regardless, YTA for writing like a 2 year old.
A bit confusing, but NTA for being upset that your sister went back on her word.
Have you heard of paragraphs?
YTA Your daughter is 12?? Why can she not stay home alone for a few hours? Why are you so upset she *might* be up past her bedtime, you’re “ugly” crying about it at Disneyland. The whole point was for you to go enjoy this experience, instead your need for control ruined it for you and the rest of the family. A 12 year old, accompanied by a 19 year old, going to target at 8pm is not dangerous behavior. Cmon.
You’re also yta because you use little grammar, subjects in your sentences, and its just impossible to really understand. I gathered the above finally from one of your comments.
Whoa, wait. 12 years old? Seriously? I thought the way she describer herself as crying and ruining her make up her daughter was a baby.
OP – YTA
Get a grip. Your daughter is 12. There is nothing wrong with taking her to Target. You might want to look up…”Helicopter Parenting”. That’s you.
Also, she could have stayed at her house by herself at 12. She didn’t need a “baby sitter”.
Please edit your post. Maybe give everyone fictitious names to make it easy to follow. Anna, Beth, Cora, etc. You can leave out unnecessary details like where you are going (although Disneyland date night sounds fabulous).
Now, I don’t totally understand your story, but I can tell you that when you paid for a service with a set expectation and that was violated, you have every right to be mad. Your child has a bedtime and needs time to wind down and get ready for bed and prepare for school the next day. One night won’t mess with her too much, but that’s not the point. You paid for a service and gave them set expectations.
However, I don’t totally understand how this is your sister’s fault? It sounds like your niece is old enough to be driving and could have easily just driven your daughter home after the party instead of going to get her sister? (Although I might be confused on that point of your story.)
I think NTA for the expectation of having your daughter home by a certain time. But you’re KindaTA for taking it out on sister. I still don’t understand why the irritation is with her. Your niece is an adult (I’m assuming) and should be responsible in this situation. Based on my own relationships I am guessing you might have other issues with your sister and that is why you are blaming her. Which, hey, I’m not judging, I’m right there with you!
What? I cannot follow what happened here. You paid your niece to watch your daughter but something else happened instead and…is your child ok? What actually happened?