So this happened last weekend and I’m getting mixed reactions from friends.
I (early 30s) went out with a friend and we planned to Uber back toward our side of town together and split the cost like we usually do. The original drop-off was basically halfway between our places, then we’d each take a short ride or walk home.
When we got in the Uber though, she suddenly asked the driver to take us all the way to her apartment first because she “didn’t feel like dealing with another ride.” That added about 20 extra minutes and bumped the fare up quite a bit. After dropping her off, I still had a longer ride home than originally planned.
Later she Venmo requested half the full fare. I told her I was fine splitting what it would’ve cost based on the original plan, but not the extra part since that change mainly benefited her. She thinks I’m being petty and said friends shouldn’t nickel-and-dime each other.
I don’t mind splitting rides normally, but I also didn’t agree to a longer, more expensive trip.
AITA?
NTA 0 I love when people say that friends shouldn’t nickle-and-dime each other or that you should just suck it up and pay. Hmmmm – would your friend feel the same if it was you that made the ride more expensive?
Yeah that’s kinda how I felt too; if it had been me adding extra time/cost, I probably wouldn’t expect her to split it evenly. I wasn’t trying to nickel-and-dime, just stick to what we originally agreed on.
Send her the correct amount (not the amount she actually asked for), and if she bugs you about the extra money, tell her to stop nickel-and-diming you.
If you let her take advantage of you once, this is only going to keep happening.
NTA. I think I was about 25 or so when I just stopped splitting things with people. I’d rather pay full price for myself and not deal with other people making things more complicated than necessary for me. I consider it paying a premium to not be aggravated because other people make dumb/poor decisions on my behalf.
Call her BS…
NTA. – send her the half fare minus the cost of you getting home from her place
No need to discuss it with her. You paid what you agreed to originally. Ignore her comments and pokes. She’s trying to break you. NEXT time, take separate Ubers. Period. Then she’ll know not to dicker with you. Act normal like everything is OK. Don’t take her bait.
NTA – this has happened to me before, it really adds up
NTA, at least for me.
it doesn’t make sense for you to pay for half a ride to her place, plus a ride to your place from hers.
NTA she did that on purpose too
NTA she didn’t discuss it with you first, none of that was per the plan.
Every issue is a communication issue.
NTA. She was fine nickel-and diming you paying for half her ride to her house and sticking you with paying the full cost (plus additional 40 minutes total) going back to your place.
If friends don’t nickel-and-dime then why is she nickel-and-dime’ing you ?
NTA
You should have said
“You are right, friends don’t nickel and dime each other, here’s my half for the original journey it would’ve been . Tc byeeee”
NTA