I write all of my thoughts in my notes app. All of them. it’s my private little journal and the thought of anyone reading it is my biggest fear. I was with one of my friends recently, and she saw me typing away in my notes app. I quickly closed out of it because i was just venting. after closing out of that note, my friend peeked her head over my phone, and saw the list of notes i have. (recipes, pros vs cons, personal thoughts).
I tried to pull my phone away but she ended up seeing my note titled “hang out requirement list” which is just a brief list of rules i have regarding who i do and do not hang out with. i’m sure this isn’t normal but i don’t think it makes me a bad person, she went on and on about how i shouldn’t have requirements on who i hang out with. here’s a copy page of the list if it gives any context
\-no late night hangouts on school nights
\-hangouts directly after work (excluding fri and sat)
\-no partners of friends in private hangouts
\-no bill-splitting in large groups
\-no drinking during hangouts (personal preference)
\-if you disrespect me i’m leaving
\-i don’t hang out at people’s houses who i haven’t met more than 3 times
\-no hanging out with guys (again just a personal preference)
i don’t think this is a bad list. also it is supposed to be private. AITAH??
EDIT) guys i was not typing the hang out list while i was with my friend. i was writing down school bc we were studying but yes i also write down anything i gotta vent about asap bc keeping it in my head sucks so ya i take accountability for that
If it’s private and I agree it should be, maybe don’t type out hangout requirements while you’re supposed to be hanging out with a friend.
She probably wanted to see what was more important than talking to her.
Put that on the hangout requirement list – no typing away on my phone while I’m actually hanging out with a friend
YTA for journaling in front of your friend despite being terrified someone could read it. If that was the case you wouldn’t even open the app around others. Keep whatever lists you want but don’t claim you’re afraid someone will see it and then pull it out in front of them.
ESH
She shouldn’t be looking over your shoulder at what you are typing.
But you were hanging out with a friend and had to immediately pull out your phone and write down something you hate and refuse to do when hanging out with people? Hard not to be offended by that and think “what did I do?” or “now I need to walk on eggshells on around OP so I don’t break her rules for hanging out”.
YTA for being glued to your phone, writing something you don’t want anyone to know about or see while hanging out with a friend. Wait, or quickly make note of a key word to jog your memory later when it is an appropriate time to do your private journaling. I have had to do this, and I’ve gone to the bathroom if I feel like I need to make a note that will take longer than a few seconds. What you are doing is rude.