A friend and I are going to a concert in a couple days. The tickets are GA. We met at work a couple years ago, and continued to stay friends after I moved to a new job.
When I was there, a third co-worker often invited herself to our cubes for coffee or join us at lunch. She’s a pretty negative person with a tendency to one-up others, talk over us, and constantly gossip about colleague’ incomes and personal lives. she would stalk people online and look up their spouses and home values, then be incredulous that so-and-so could afford their home. She also constantly compares herself to others in entirely different departments, and would seemingly seethe when she saw them get promoted or some kind of reward. Needless to say, we don’t enjoy being around her. We never went out of our way to include her in anything, but would never tell her to leave out of politeness.
We also stopped by her holiday party briefly on the way to another party, because we knew that no one else in the 50-person company was planning to attend.
This week she asked if my friend had any exciting plans coming up. My friend mentions us attending the concert, among other things friend has planned for the week, without inviting her. Half an hour later she announces that she found the concert and bought herself a ticket, and looks forward to attending with us.
My friend tells her we’ll see her there. we are meeting up for drinks later today ahead of the concert but don’t plan to invite her. WIBTA for avoiding her at the concert?
NTA
NTA. Your friend is dumb for telling her when they already know how she is though.
NTA – always frustrating when others invite themselves to your plans. Ruins the entire vibe.