Last weekend I went on a resort trip with my girlfriends. One of them brought along her boyfriend. We’re all 21 and he’s 22. It was night time and I was in their room for a couple minutes just talking to her (all of our rooms are beside each other). So it was the three of us: my friend, her boyfriend, and I. She was sitting on the bed and he was one his phone or something, and i was on a chair. Mid conversation she hastily gets up from the bed and says she needs to go to the washroom. There aren’t individual washrooms in each room, there’s one communal area with stalls, kinda like in a school. So the journey to the washroom and back is annoyingly lengthy.
As soon as she left I noticed she bled on the sheets of the bed, it was quite a large amount. Her boyfriend noticed as well as well and he was visibly displeased by it. She was sitting on his side of the bed so that’s where she leaked (she’s the most particular person ever regarding which side of the bed is hers, because she sets up the nightstand and all her stuff and whatever. And once she’s decided on a side, that will be her side.) So we both knew switching sides wasn’t an option.
He asked me what he should do with the stain. I told him that trying to clean it would probably be too much of a hassle since it’s already so late. And there were no cleaning products of any sort around. He suggested to put some tissues on it and just sleeping over that, and I was like no the tissues will definitely not stay in place. So that’s when I proposed the idea of taping down the tissues instead. He agreed like almost immediately. He borrowed some tape from the reception and taped down a couple of tissues to the bed, right on top of the stained area. I waited for a couple minutes for her to arrive back, but she didn’t so I left to go to bed.
The next morning we all met up again during breakfast. I went up to my friend to ask her how she’s feeling now and she gave me a really dirty look. I asked what’s wrong and she went off on me, speaking about how fake I am and how I’m not a girls girl. She said how the genius solution I suggested last night was completely stupid and humiliating to her, especially infront of her boyfriend. Also I apparently triggered the worst fight they’ve had in their relationship so far.
This was all last weekend, so it’s been a week now. She’s been very dry and tense towards me all week. We have been talking but it’s just not the same, I can tell she’s still angry at me
You both as grown adults, tapped tissues to the bed for her to sleep on?
YTA
Esh.
You all are extremely weird
>He borrowed some tape from the reception
INFO: Was this a hotel or hostel? Why not just ask for fresh linens?
Or throw a towel over it.
YTA for suggesting something so stupid. Did it really not occur to any of you to just ask for clean sheets? 🙄
I honestly can’t wrap my head around this taping tissues solution. If you’re going to reception to request tape, could you not have requested fresh sheets or, at the very least, a towel?
However, I’m guessing this wasn’t your friend’s complaint. Certain things, even if they are natural and unavoidable and happen to everyone, are still embarrassing, and period leaks are one of them. She was already embarrassed by the leak and then it hurt even more to know her friend and boyfriend had a whole conversation about it. Try to put yourself in her shoes. What if you were overcome with indigestion, ran to the bathroom, came back and were just praying everyone was going to pretend they didn’t hear your stomach bubbling like a hot volcano, and instead found your bestie and your boyfriend “helpfully” folding up papers and telling everyone they could use them as fart fans around you?
I think you should have thought this through a bit and I also think she should have taken a step back and realized you were trying to be helpful rather than hurtful, so ESH.
I…. what… why did you go to the staff for tape and not new sheets?… why didn’t you guys use like a towel to try dabbing at it first too? .. yta
YTA. Taping tissues!??? That is a really stupid idea. You’ve had periods for I would assume at least six years and you don’t know how to get rid of a blood stain?
YTA
I originally thought you were a guy, because that advice made absolutely no sense. Like the kind of advice someone would give if they have never had to deal with blood, which you supposedly had.
You don’t even necessarily need cleaning products, just cold water and scrub the fabric into itself. With flesh blood that would have taken out 95% of it. Yes the trip to the washroom would have been necessary. Because now that blood has set in overnight, that tissue idea was nonsensical, the tape down part especially.
You need to put quotation marks around — suggesting a “solution”. Because something’s wrong should not be confused with being solved
YTA I’ve worked in hotels. Let reception know so the sheets can be changed. Once it soaks through to the mattress it’s nothing short of a nightmare to deal with and leaving bloody sheets in the bed is going to make that more likely. Also dried blood is harder to clean than fresh.
Are you aware of what a towel or blanket is
I dont understand why you didnt just ask reception for fresh sheets. It would have taken 5 minutes to change them, even at night. There is a reason they have a night manager at these places.
Reception was open but no one thought to ask for clean sheets lol? What you suggested what ridiculous, but you were trying to help. There was nothing for her to get angry about. NTA
ESH but this is insane.
Taping tissues to a bed to cover up period blood is just weird. Housekeeping should have been asked for clean sheets.