I (17F) had a male best friend whom I really valued. I trusted him a lot and shared my personal problems, worries, and relationship issues with him.
Recently, an unknown Instagram account sent me a request and told me he had been talking badly about me behind my back. I didn’t believe it at first. But then this account started revealing private things that I had only told him. That’s when I realised it had to be true.
I confronted him about it. He explained that he was trying to “see what other people were saying about me” and what they thought about my relationships. But I never asked him to do that, and honestly, I didn’t even want to know. It felt like a weak excuse.
The people he was discussing me with were mostly guys from my class. One of them was my ex, whom I really dislike, and my best friend knew that. Still, he chose to talk about me with him and even contributed the most to the negative comments.
I decided to stand up for myself and cut them off. Now, though, I’m being seen as the “bad person” in my class for creating drama and distancing myself.
So… AITA for cutting him off and defending myself?
No you are not he isnt a true friend If he does that why would he want to know what people think abt you anyway what a weak excuse
Nta he broke your trust and let out some very personal information. Honestly its better to let those people go.
NTA.
His excuses were BS, you know that. And that he is hanging out with your ex is a massive red flag.
Do not trust him any more at all. You *know* he’d do it all over again and worse, sell you down the river to his ‘bros’, given the chance.
You’re NTA but he sure is. He’s not your friend. Neither is anyone who criticized your decision to protect yourself!
NTA
NTA I think deep down he knows he’s in the wrong here, and one day he might even be willing to admit it. But it will be too little, too late. Sorry for you losing a friendship, as that’s pretty painful.
NTA. You did the right thing. Trust is everything in a friendship, and anyone who talks about you behind your back isn’t worth your energy.
NTA, but your bf is a d!*k and you’re getting panned by a bunch of hormonal teenage boys because you are female, set a boundary, and are standing your ground and calling those who violated it on their $h!t. Those AHs can suck it – you a queen 👸!
NTA he wouldn’t have shared personal information with your ex if he was your friend. His reason makes no sense. He doesn’t need to share personal info to know if they are.
nah youre nta trust is huge in bsf relationships and he broke it big time.
NTA, best to put some space between you.
All that matters is you know the truth. you did the right thing. you don’t need those people in your life. NTA
NTA He should’ve known better than to talk about you behind your back.