For my friend’s birthday she wanted our friend group to go away for the weekend for 2 nights. We are a group of 6 girls and she said that partners are welcome so there are now 10 of us (4 couples and 2 singles). She organised the Airbnb and we are dividing the cost equally between everyone.
There are 6 rooms: 2 rooms with a double bed, 2 rooms with 2 single beds and 2 rooms with 2 bunk beds. None of the rooms have ensuites and there are 3 bathrooms in the airbnb.
For deciding who sleeps in what room, myself and my friend that organised the trip (both the single people) asked can we pull names from a hat to see who sleeps where to keep it fair. (Myself and my friend have decided to sleep in the same room so it will be 5 names picked out of a hat)
Two of the couples are happy with this arrangement but two of the couples don’t agree with it.
One of the couples said that they are paying more so should get a double room but I can’t understand that way of thinking. They aren’t paying more, they are each paying the same amount for 1 adult as I am. A couple is not 1 unit, they are still 2 people that will be using the shared bathrooms, 2 people that will be taking up space in the kitchen and living areas.
I went on a trip recently and had to sleep on a bunk bed and had the worst sleep on it. I have slept on a double bed since I was 14 years old. I don’t think it’s fair that just because I don’t have a boyfriend I should automatically get the worst sleeping arrangement. Especially as we are all paying the same amount.
I can’t stop thinking about the situation and I am feeling sad and upset that they would be happy with automatically putting me in the worst bed due to not being in a couple. I just want it to be a fair decision.
Am I the asshole for not just offering to take one of the rooms with the bunk beds?
Edit: me and my friend will be sharing a room so it would be 5 names going into the hat. Also to be clear, I did not book the Airbnb.
I am sorry, but as there are only 2 rooms with doubles, those should go to 2 of the 4 couples. The other rooms have twins, so those don’t really matter how they get divided.
And I say that as a single person who has slept in a queen for decades. I would take the twin and give the larger bed to a couple.
If it was such an issue, you could have chosen a different house with more larger beds.
This. Also, it’s only 2 nights, you’ll live. I get not wanting to sleep in a bunk bed, but unless you get another Airbnb with different bed arrangements (probably considerably more $ for all) then this is what you’re left with. I think you should just suck it up for 2 nights. Maybe eat a gummy or something to help you sleep.
Kind of yta. Most couples see themselves as one unit. They want to sleep in the same bed which would have been expected when you decided couples were going. If you wanted a double bed, and you planned the trip you should have found a place that offered bigger beds for everybody or at least enough for all the couples and yourself. You say bring your partner, but sleep in separate beds because I as a single person don’t want to sleep in a single bed. It’s not because it’s a punishment for being single, but because logically it makes sense for couples to be able to share a bed when they go on a trip together.
YTA
The couples should have a means of sleeping in the same bed. So the two singles you push the beds together to make one bed. And the two singles get the bunk beds.
The real asshole is the single friend who organized this and didn’t get an Airbnb with an adequate number of suitable beds and isn’t willing to take a bunk bed.
YTA. I’ll get downvoted I’m sure but if I were in your group I’d be annoyed if a couple was being cornered into taking the bunk beds.
But you’re correct, they’re not paying more than you.
If you didn’t want to sleep in a bunk bed, you shouldn’t have picked a rental with bunk beds. Or maybe you think it’s ok for other people to sleep in one, but you shouldn’t have to. YTA.
YTA. The couples are paying more if they’re paying per person. They are sharing a room, you get your own. Is that right? So you can choose top or bottom bunk, whichever you prefer. A bunk bed isn’t automatically uncomfortable. If it’s a bad bed it’s a bad bed which is hard to predict when booking an air bnb. If you have that much trouble sleeping when traveling you should probably make that known ahead of time and make requests. Like no bunk beds if it’s that bad.
As an aside does nobody else immediately claim the top bunk? I’m in my 40s and love a good top bunk.
In your heart of hearts, do you think it’s reasonable to ask 4 couples to split bunk beds, so you (who could easily fit on a twin) can have a larger bed?
Here’s the thing. If a single person sleeps on a double bed, that is unfair to the other individual single people (or the members of a couple that split up to sleep in single beds) that have to sleep in single beds. Why should one person get a bed that is bigger than another person? It’s not fair.
It’s only fair if couples sleep on the double because 2 people in one double bed is roughly the same (or less) space per person as one person in a single bed.
This is what makes you YTA.
You’re trying to get more bed for yourself than each other individual person will get.
EXACTLY! Why would one person get a giant bed lol
She said she and the other single would be sharing, this is what makes it fair
But OP said they would share the room with their friend which presumably means sharing the bed too? am i misunderstanding something?
YTA.
You haven’t slept on THIS bunk bed. A single bed (or 2 of them stacked) is a perfectly valid sleeping arrangement for a human person. I can understand if the matress is bad, that ruins sleep, but if the single size is a guarantee of bad sleep for you, that’s just not reasonable.
Especially when the bed arrangement is literally perfectly fitted to your group setup.
Imagine you are in a couple and there are 2 single people and they are trying to make you sleep apart on a vacation. C’mon..It’s called a single bed for a reason.
This is Reddit so you will get tons of single and/or antisocial people telling you to stand up for “single people’s rights!”
But that’s not the real world. YTA.
Expecting a couple to take a bunk bed room, while singles have a room fit for sharing a bed (even if you’d have to push 2 singles together), is weird. How would you not feel awkward even if you got your way? Again, weird.