I live in a house with my girlfriend and three other guys. my girlfriend and I share the master bedroom and the guys all have their own rooms. We have mixed feelings towards our roommates, but we have not had issues with anyone not respecting our space.
Two nights ago my girlfriend and I bought a bottle of vodka and had some drinks. We did not measure how much we drank, but if I had to guess we both probably had around 2 – maybe 2.5 shots each mixed in with some juice. Neither of us are big drinkers, we were more than tipsy, less than drunk.
When we were done with the vodka we put it on top of a bag on the floor.
I got home tonight and I am almost positive we did not drink as much as it has in it now. It is almost empty. We do not drink often, so I don’t really have a frame of reference for how much we normally would consume, but sharing almost the whole bottle seems like a lot more than would be normal. If I had to guess, we drank around half the bottle.
I can’t find any spills or find any other explanation other than
1) We really did drink that much and just didn’t realize it
Or 2) A roommate drank the rest.
It is not so much the issue of a missing few shots of vodka as much as one of our roomates has a drinking problem and can’t admit it, but, as far as I know, he has been significantly better the last 6 months or so.
I have seen him tonight, but can’t think of seeing him last night.
AITA for thinking someone may have drank the alcohol out of our room? Or do you think we really did drink that much?
NAH: thinking whatever doesn’t make you an asshole. If you accused roomates of sneaking your booze without any proof then you would be an AH. Just let it go for now, IMO, and be sure to hide it somewhere next time if you’re worried about it.
this, as long as you’re not accusing people without proof, you’re not an asshole.
You can think what you want, as long as you don’t go around accusing anyone with no proof. Don’t you have a lock on your door? You should get one, especially if you don’t know or trust your roommates very well.
NTA for having suspicions. You say you bought the bottle recently and only took 2-2.5 shots, that is nowhere near enough for a bottle of vodka to be “almost empty.” Very good chance that another one of your roommates drank out of it.
You have a choice: assume that you must have drunk more vodka than you realised (an easy and frequently made mistake) or assume that one of your roommates has invaded your privacy and stolen from you.
I don’t know if this is an AITA question really. The wise choice is to assume this is your mistake. The poor choice (for your happiness, relationships, peace at home) is to be unnecessarily suspicious of your roommates.
NAH… yet. At this point you aren’t sure, so best bet is to let this one slide and assume it was your own mistake, but keep an eye out for other strange behaviour and especially for people entering your room without permission and/or consuming your food/alcohol.
NTA – unless you are both serious drinkers, nearly finishing a vodka between two people would have gotten pretty messy. My concern wouldn’t be a secret drinking problem of a housemate (no solid evidence of that), but instead that someone drank a fair bit of your bottle without asking to do it, or telling you after. Thats bad housemate manners.