Yes my name is not a very common name, it’s unique but not difficult. You can get it right in at most three tries.
I have just paused visiting, letting her visit and reaching out to a friend because she has refused to make her cousin stop mispronouncing my name. Not because he can’t, he just thinks it’s funny. He’s visiting from out of state and has been here a few weeks. I’ve corrected him and told him I don’t appreciate making a joke about my name on different occasions and he still refuses to stop. I even had to get his phone number from my friend to text him about it but he turned to flirting with me, I blocked him. I decided to talk to my friend about it, I mean she knew this was going on but I guess I had to involve her officially. She agreed to speak with him but the next time we saw each other; they came over, he did the very same thing again and my friend tells me to take it lightly, he’s just being funny. I was so disappointed and upset I told them to leave that I had relatives coming over. My friend texted me later telling me how it was wrong sending them out of the house that she knew no one was coming over. I just told her as long as she believes I’m overreacting and take it lightly when her cousin jokes about my name I don’t want to have her around me anymore.
I know some might say it’s extreme but think of how you’d feel if someone constantly jokes and mispronounces your name intentionally. So do you guys think I’m the asshole?
NTA they don’t respect you if its always a joke.
NTA- You’re completely justified in wanting to be respected in your own home and baring that completely justified in kicking them out. If they can’t respect a very basic and simple boundary and worse actively ignore it I see no reason to interact with either.
Your friend isn’t responsible for your cousin’s behaviour, but she is responsible for how she shows up as a friend. If you have already reached out and made clear that your name should not be joked about, and she still doesn’t do anything to prevent/stop that from happening, then she is evil by association.
NTA. You have the right to not serve guests that won’t even respect your basic boundaries! If she is mad about you asserting your rights to not be treated like a joke, then she either has low EQ, or she isn’t a good friend at all.
NTA this is like telling a kid that their bully just has a crush on them. I bet this guy was the bully and never learned that teasing isn’t flirting. You did everything exactly right, reasonable steps to enforce some basic respect. If neither of them reach out to apologize, that’s that.
nta. sounds like he’s pulling your pigtails and she’s helping. good for you for blocking him, and good for you for not letting him disrespect you by intentionally mispronounce your name at you in your own home.
it’s only a joke if everyone’s laughing. you’ve been pretty clear already that you’re not laughing, and someone who’ll keep doing the thing after you’ve blocked their number is not someone you want around.
NTA.
If it’s truly a joke, why isn’t everyone laughing?
If you really wanted to be petty, come up with unflattering names for your “friend” and her cousin that bear a slight similarity to their actual names. Start calling them by those names exclusively; it’s a JOKE, right?
NTA
They’re not a good friend if they ignore you and enable someone to be disrespectful about your name
NTA sounds like she isn’t a friend. Block her too.
My name is super easy to pronounce, but some people like to twist it. I ask nicely a couple of times–if they don’t stop, then I start calling them, loudly, by a name that isn’t theirs. Whatever name pops into my head at the time. That usually stops it pretty quick–especially if it is in public.
Have you tried pronouncing his name wrong?
NTA your name is a very personal thing. To purposely mispronounce it and treat it as a joke is profoundly disrespectful.
NTA as people don’t understand how people with unique names get harassed throughout their lives. I have a name that used to make me cringe at roll call on the 1st day of school because of the jokes that were cracked. When someone deliberately belittles you or minimizes your feelings it’s abusive and honestly, you have every right to shut that behavior down.
NTA. Is he stupid? Does he think flirting with you will be more successful if he pisses you off?
Also your friend sucks. You told her you don’t appreciate it, and she basically tells you tough luck.
You did the right thing kicking them out.
NTA tell her that kicking them out was funny and to lighten up about it. “See, we both got jokes.”