I matched with a girl on a dating app from my college and started texting her. We made plans yesterday for her to come over and hang out tomorrow. Today I found out my roommate got her number a couple weeks ago and actually hung out with her once also. He ended up not liking her and ended up texting her after to say he wasn’t interested. When he found out I was texting her we were amused and laughed about it. However when he found out I was having her come over he became really angry and told me I was being a bad friend. He said he wouldn’t want to be friends with me after this if I let her come over. I told him he wouldn’t have to even interact with her and don’t think it’s a big deal. She’s only free for a couple hours anyway so I figured he could just chill in his room or somewhere else. Plus I plan on having her be in my room most of the time anyway. I can’t tell if I am being a dick or not. AITA?
Ehhh NTA for talking to her- he can’t call bro code in this situation at all, but I can see how he really wouldn’t be comfortable with her in his home.
NTA
She didn’t do anything terrible to him, they just didn’t vibe. Doesn’t make her a bad person, and doesn’t mean you and her won’t hit it off. Roommates don’t get to dictate that unless the person is dangerous or abusive, and it doesn’t sound like she is.
NTA – It’s not like you’re getting with his ex girlfriend, they hungout one time and he didn’t like her but he still feels insecure enough to think he has some real estate there
Tbh the only way this makes sense to me is if he’s lying, he didn’t reject her, she rejected him, and now he’s butthurt she’s more interested in you
Yeah, that’s what I thought.
But also, people with egos do nonsensical stuff so who knows lol
He could just feel the fact that he liked her enough to see her once means she’s off limits to any friends forever. Trying to use the bro code in a situation it doesn’t make sense to do so.
Idk this is tough and I have a couple questions. Is he just claiming bro code? Because that would be silly since they only hung out once.
Or did she do something to make him uncomfortable? Because then that would make sense why he may not want her in his home.
Does she know you’re his roommate?
Also possibly slightly YTA based only on info you provided. You’re inviting a girl he rejected, that neither of you know that well, into your home. It’s just kind of not smart/safe. Why not meet somewhere else for the first time?
NTA – you pay rent. He has no more right to dictate who can come over and hang out with you than you do dictating to him who he can have over! Unless something major happened between them you haven’t been told, he needs to check himself!!
Okay so I get it can be a bit awkward. Does the girl know? It also imo depends on the amount of people in the area. Is she like one of the few cute girls in your small town or is it a big city with endless cute girls?
NTA- he doesn’t get to dictate who you hang out with or who you date. he wasn’t interested in a young lady, he made his choice. that doesn’t mean you don’t get to date her either. she’s not an object. he doesn’t make up her mind. if he doesn’t want to see her, as you stated, he can go somewhere else or stay in his room.
roommate needs to grow up.
NTA as long as she’s aware of the situation. Maybe he’s so worried about it because of another reason that isn’t simply ghosting her
NTA
The only times I’ve seen guys reacting this way is when the guy did some batshit nasty stuff or got denied sex (generally under the assumption of “O paid for your drink, you owe me sex”).
His problem, not yours.
Nta. If they dated and they were in love and it crashed in flames id get it. But they liked talked once
NTA he’s being a little too involved with a girl he hung out with and didn’t vibe with.
NTA …though this sounds more like SHE was the one not interested in him.
NTA. She’s a person, not leftovers. He chose not to pursue it. That doesn’t mean she’s off-limits forever. If anything, he’s being weirdly territorial for someone who said he wasn’t interested.