So I have this friend who i’ve known for a few years now and he’s recently started getting really into making TikTok content. Which is totally cool, I’ve been posting for several years so it’s no judgement, and he’s having fun. He makes your standard gym-bro and bro thirst trap content, he posts like 5-6 times a day, plus stories.
This is where the conflict arises. the content on my fyp is lots of makeup, cozy gaming, crafts, etc. his content doesnt really line up with what my algorithm is giving me, because thats not content im interested in consuming. if his videos pop up in my friends section i’ll usually like the video and maybe leave a comment like "get those gains bro!" to be supportive, he posts frequently, but i’ll naturally see a video maybe once or twice a week because of the algorithm.
So he sends me his tiktoks. all of them. videos, stories, carousels, all in my inbox the second theyre posted. if i dont like them within a time frame he deems fast enough, i’ll literally get a text asking if i saw his latest post and if i can like it. posting is also becoming the main topic of conversation with myself and mutual friends with him and a few of us agree its becoming a bit obsessive.
A few days ago he posted like, 10 videos and sent me every single one. i got annoyed and snappy, I said "hey, can you stop sending me everything you post and asking me to like them? it’s a lot, i mean if i see your posts i’ll like them, but this is kind of getting weird". He then responds with "i’m just trying to grow my account and maybe make some money off of it down the line, i just want you to be supportive." to which i responded with "i encouraged you to start posting in the first place and i do support you, i just feel like its a bit rude to constantly send me your videos and demand i like them within like 20 minutes of being posted. also its not my favorite thing to like your thirst traps when a) youre my friend and b) i have a boyfriend whos uncomfortable with me liking those posts". he then brought up the fact that he likes my posts too, but i dont send mine to him, and he maybe likes one a week. also if he comments on a post, its usually actually kind of making fun of me and feels demeaning (usually comments along the lines of "omg loser do you think youre an influencer or something?" (ironic) I also don’t care if he does or doesnt like my posts, my content is very niche and for a female audience, so i dont expect him to watch.
We argued for like 10 minutes about it, and finally i was just like "whatever, its not that big of a deal, lets just drop it." He’s still sending me all of his posts, but i’ve stopped liking any that dont naturally hit my fyp/friends tab.
Anyways, AITA here and being unsupportive? i do think i could have approached the topic better, but am i wrong to be annoyed in the first place?
NTA – for the 20 minute pestering if nothing else. I think sometimes people who ask for likes/ comments etc don’t think about or don’t care that if you’re constantly liking and commenting on videos that you don’t actually like- it makes your feed basically unwatchable. I had to stop engaging with those videos that were only asking for engagement and nothing else because it started that that type of video was the only one I’d see. Posting 10 times a day and expecting a like within 20 minutes is excessive. You’re already messing up your feed by liking his videos that come naturally- that’s more than enough as a friend.
this was what i was thinking too. while he doesnt lean that way, when i was liking his content it put me on the gym bro side of things and that stuff becomes weird red pill content so quick and i would have to go search out my usual type of content and like a bunch of stuff to make it go away
NTA. He sounds insufferable.
NTA and frankly I would drop him over this. Then again I dont use tiktok for multiple reasons. Still weird as hell to be sending you his thirst traps.
NTA, you are setting boundaries for your own sanity and relationship if your boyfriend is uncomfortable with you liking and commenting on this friends types of posts
Neither of you should be giving this much focus/attention to social media.
ESH for childish online drama.
>if i dont like them within a time frame he deems fast enough, i’ll literally get a text asking if i saw his latest post and if i can like it.
Oh, hell no. He’s farming you both for “likes” and to get into your female audience. NTA
NTA. He sounds tiring.
NTA – Block him if you can’t reason with him. Also the fact that he makes fun of you instead of being supportive is to put himself above you, he probably feels good about himself when he does that.
He doesn’t sound like a friend.
NTA I think it’s so weird when friends and family want to be influencers and feel entitled to have us watch and engage aggressively with their content. If I know them personally, I want to engage with them personally…not as one of their “followers.” I know tapping into places you already know is standard, but it makes no sense and actually strains relationships when there is constant expectation.
Also sounds one sided. He gets all the benefits, and you must suffer his content.
I’m not sure why you didn’t mute him?
I don’t understand the influencer lifestyle but he sounds exhausting. 10 posts a day?
NTA
NTA just start commenting “omg loser what do you think youre an influencer or something” back at him and watch how fast he stops sending you his videos.
NTA. There’s a difference between being supportive and being someone’s unpaid engagement farm. You’re his friend, not his algorithm.
Cut him off asap