I(16m) lied to my friend(16f) about how her crush/my friend felt about her. My friend(16f) had liked my friend since the beginning of middle school and she has been somewhat dropping hints to my friend that she likes him, and these last few months they have been flirting for months, but a few weeks ago my friend explained to me that any flirting was just a joke, but I never told her. And now I’m scared she’ll hate me cuz I kept trying to give her hope, praying that a white lie would change fate, but he rejected her on Valentine’s Day before she could even confess. Am I in the wrong or did I do the right thing?
YTA, not saying anything would not make you necessarily the asshole. But “white lieing” and giving her hope definitely makes you one. Why would you do that?
I don’t know I wasn’t thinking at the time, my thought process was she’d just keep torturing herself if she kept loving someone she knew didn’t love her, I thought lying and telling her something different would make her feel better
Her love for him would be over really fast if she knew he was just toying with her. You have only prolonged it. And also unnecessary embarrasment.
Your friend is the biggest asshole here because he played with the feelings of your friend by flirting with her when he wasn’t interested.
So I think you should have told her. But I understand why you didn’t. But like I said, the biggest asshole is your friend that played with here feelings.
Yta – lying to your friend, hiding things and setting her up for a massive embarrassment when he rejected her is cruel. Take a moment to put yourself in her shoes and imagine how you’d feel.
You and this dude were both in the wrong. Him for just being a AH as a person and you setting your friend up for a very embarrassing fall. Do you not think you were playing with her feelings giving her false hope, lying and leading her on?
Depends.
Still not sure whether being the supportive or realistic friend is the viable option. It is okay to support your friend and give them hope, I’m not saying it’s your fault, as the relationship between them shouldn’t exactly be your responsibility, but if you did know their crush was joking and you still continued the white lie, then yes YTA. If not, then that’s not your fault and you’re NTA.
If you did know, it is always better to tell your friend the truth. While they might have ill feelings toward you then, it’s not your fault, especially cause their feelings mainly stem from being rejected and not that you told them the truth, cause obviously no one would want to continue being delusional.
That was immature. Youre all young. Its alright, youll mature as time goes on. Learn from your mistakes