This happened quite recently, and I genuinely don’t know what to do
My coworker (around 65f) asked me to get this menthol candy she saw one of my other coworkers have at break (50f) (don’t know why she didn’t ask my other coworker). Since I’m not a confrontational person i said okay, sure, there is a shop really close to where I live (around 3 minutes away), she sent me the name of the candy (which I now know wasn’t even the actual name for it). I took a look but didn’t find anything. I told her so, but she still won’t stop bugging me about it, telling me I should go and look in another shop for said candy. The closest shop is around an hour away walking (since i dont have a car). Now it isn’t some limited-time edition candy or anything; she could buy it off the internet if she really wanted it. She is expecting me to go look through every shop around town for the candy, all this after 12-hour shifts, like i genuenly dont have anything better to do than to look for candy. I talked to my (50f) coworker, and she said to just let it go, and that she’s crazy (she’s done shit like this before), but i dont want to be the ah by telling her to f off and don’t know what to do.
AITA?
NTA
She can get her own candy. Just say no.
Seems a little off. Let her get her own candy!
You are not her underling that runs errands for her. She’s a grown woman that is perfectly capable of buying candy herself. This is such a baffling behavior on her side.
Please tell her to f off. Hide it in business pleasantry lingo. But do tell her.
NTA
NTA, also why are you taking orders from a coworker?
NTA…she can get her own candy.
NTA, asking your coworker to buy you candy is weird. Pestering you repeatedly is really, really weird. As you can say, she can get it herself. Just tell her no. Yeah, you don’t need to literally tell her to “f off” but just say sorry you can’t help her with this.
NTA.
Speak to your companies HR.
She is making you feel unsafe in the workplace.
Only someone with a mental health issue would expect you to go store to store to do her personal shopping for candy.
This is your employers issue not yours.
NTA- To possibly get her off your back, send her a link where she can buy it online herself.
ESH. Your coworker is either clueless, lazy, or entitled.
You, on the other hand, seem to be unwilling to tell her that you’re unable to spend any more time running this errand for her. Instead, you frame it as a matter of “*telling her to f off*.” If you don’t know any other way of declining a request by saying “no” and, instead, you continue to try while complaining, you have issues.
NTA. Why on earth do you think it’s your job to be an unpaid personal shopworker for a co-worker? I can’t even believe you went to the first store. Ignore her.
lowkey why this lady so butthurt about candy bro like help me why does she need her meth candy that bad. anyways i think you COULDVE been the bad guy if you like promised her you would get it for her but then didn’t remember (which again that would also have been more like disappointing rather than making u the actual one in the wrong)- but in this case scenario u legit just looked and couldn’t find it. like thats already a nice enough gesture, i feel like most ppl would just be like “oh i looked and i couldnt find any sorry!” and the other would be like ahh okay thanks for looking, so i dont really know why shes still bugging u about it. but idk i would just straight up say, ah sorry i already looked for your candy and couldn’t find it and im pretty busy- maybe u could go buy it online or something. if she still gets mad bro, then lowkey just crash out cuz she fr doesn’t need someone else to go buy her that candy if she wants it that bad lololol.
in fact, thinking about it- its already weird to ask u abt it in the first place, like unless u were already at the supermarket or otw and she asked if u could get it on the way there or something, but just randomly is already kinda weird lolz.
No is a complete sentence.
Just keep telling her you can’t find it. You don’t have to actually look