Hi there. Throwaway bc I don’t really feel like posting this on my main.
A bit of background- I work two jobs. An 8-4 office job, and a to go job at a restaurant from 5-10/11 most nights. I’ve been working at this restaurant since November, and have not had a full weekend to myself since I started my second job. I’ve worked 7 days a week between my two jobs for the last 5 weeks straight.
Here’s where things get a little complicated and I feel as if I may be selfish/might be being stupid. My coworker "Ka", is an older woman. She just texted me asking if I can pick up her shift at the restaurant this Saturday.
I have just purchased myself a shiny new nostalgic toy that I had planned to be engrossed with all weekend since It’s my first full weekend to myself in months…
I told her I was busy this weekend and had made plans. She asked if she could convince me to swap my plans around for her but I held firm, citing the fact that I work two jobs and have had 0 time to myself lately. She seemed dejected but understanding.
Part of me feels bad, the other part doesn’t. I’m also not the only other person that works to go. There’s a handful of us. L, M, G and Kd are other workers she could ask, but she always asks me to cover her. I usually say yes.
In all honesty, I really **could** swap my plans around since I’m just staying home, chilling and playing with a virtual pet toy. But at the same time, I feel torn because I feel like I deserve the time to myself. AITA?
Nta, it sounds like you need a break
NTA. You’re working yourself thin. Take this weekend to do whatever the heck you want to do.
NTA, you need the time off! Hopefully there’s someone else she can swap with, but regardless no one would hold it against you when you’re working two jobs
NTA.
You’re entitled to time off/down time as much as the next person whether you have plans or not. Trust me, don’t get into the habit of being a martyr for everyone else’s benefit all the time.
NTA. There are other people that can take the shift. Also, if she knew she needed the time off she should have adjusted her availability so she wouldn’t have been scheduled to work that day.
Everyone seriously needs to mute co-workers/bosses. Your life will be so much easier that way. Also if you don’t click on the message they won’t know you saw it. If they call don’t answer it.
Dude, no. Play with your Tamagotchi! You deserve it after five weeks straight working (including covering some of her shifts it seems). Go have fun!
Hah! I got clocked 😂 Yeah it’s a tamagotchi paradise… I’m very excited- It arrives tomorrow! 🥹
NAH
She’s not an asshole for asking, and you’re not an asshole for refusing.
NTA you don’t have to explain yourself to you coworker L, next time just say no you aren’t available no explanation.
NTA
I have learned this the hard way but do not over share, they asked you a yes or no question, answer it just yes or no. You may feel pressured to add in that detail, but all Ka needs to know from you is, you can not swap shifts with her, sorry. She will then move on to the others. You made plans, self care is super important. Do not cave, stand your ground! BE STRONG!
NAH. What you do during your spare time is your business and is totally your call. She respected your decision though, hence the no aholes here vote.
No