Hey there! So I’ll keep this as short as possible because it was a lot to deal with. For a little context I (37f) have this coworker who’s almost 20 years younger than me, I dont plan on details because if this post does get around I dont want to burn bridges. So, this kid just doesnt do his job properly on a normal day and the other day we were short staffed and I had been dealing with depression for a few weeks that built up and I planned to work through it, it was only 3 hours how hard could it be, right? Wrong. I had a couple breakdowns and was crying while working because I could not stop it. So, when short staffed everyone is supposed to help with ALL of the work to make sure we get out on time (we close for the night). Now, he did not help me one bit and sat down doing nothing. I was hurt and felt disrespected and upset and told who I needed to about the poor work he did and then was moving on. So then two days later, after I had my day off, I started my shift early because I was needed. He comes in and sh*t literally would have hit the fan if there was one in the room. I lost it on him over something I know was stupid. I have emotional dysregulation so I did not process my anger fast enough to react. I reacted unprofessionally and out of character so I decided I should do the right thing and apologize. Now, here’s where the WIBTA part comes in. Knowing how YOUNG he is, he likely cant read cursive. Now, I know thats me just assuming but I see it as, if he can read it then great, he listened to what I had to say. Now if he cant read it, he’d have to have someone read it for him and I think that would just be hilarious and a kinda funny little prank to maybe lighten things? Lol I know i can be terrible but I really do love this job and I want it to move smoothly and would like to professionally make amends because im too old to be acting this childish. So yes, I know im the a-hole with what went down BUT WIBTA if I wrote the apology letter in cursive knowing he might not be able to read it?
So you’re apologizing because, as you yourself admit, you behaved unprofessionally….. And in making your apology, you’re choosing to deliberately communicate in a form that he might not understand……
You’re not old enough to be a boomer, but that is epic boomer behaviour.
Millennials are supposed to call out boomers for their bulshit behaviour, not copy it.
I think you know YWBTA.
Calling a 20-something coworker who is in the same position a kid and being shitty to them because they are so young and presumably (by you) stupid is a clear sign of YTA. Maybe there was a reason this person didn’t want to help you?
It doesn’t sound like you really are remorseful for your behaviour and mean the apology but are more worried about keeping your job. That you want to write in cursive as petty revenge for having to apologise makes yta. If you are genuinely sorry you would want the apology to be received no matter what so would say it verbally and provide it in writing that you are sure he could read.
Tbh you really should be in therapy and seeking treatment to improve your emotion regulation as while mental illness isn’t your fault, it is your responsibility to get the help you need to not blow up on others.
YTA – an apology in way of a prank is not an apology. You just resent him because he’s a bad worker and want to get jabs in when you can. Apologize, take your qualms up with management. You shouldn’t put so much emphasis on the age gap if you want to act this immature.
YTA
You’re planning to use your ‘apology’ as a way to have a laugh at his expense.
That is the opposite of an apology.
>I decided I should do the right thing and apologize
is mutually incompatible with
>I think that would just be hilarious and a kinda funny little prank to maybe lighten things? Lol I know i can be terrible
The very fact that you are considering turning an apology for unprofessional behavior into a prank *on the person you owe the apology to* makes me seriously question whether you have any understanding of what it means to be a professional
Yes, YWBTA if you intentionally give an apology in an insincere way… And offering an apology in a way you believe the recipient will not understand is the very definition of insincerity (regardless of whether you have accurately assessed his abilities)
>I reacted unprofessionally and out of character
I’m not sure it’s fair to say that behaving unprofessionally *is* out-of-character for you. Certainly nothing about your post indicates an understanding of professional norms.
You sound like the insufferable child here.
YWBTA. You need to grow up. You are both working adults. How about you start acting like one.
Additionally, they still teach cursive to kids.
YTA YTA YTA
Your whole post is framed how nothing is really your fault (but it is) while trying to make your coworker the bad guy.
You did something wrong, and now you are being petty about apologising.
You are nearly 40 and still acting like a child, actually most children when they did something wrong wouldn’t act like this.
Get a grip.
YTA
Your entire post is excuses for your poor behavior. You acted unprofessionally (in your own opinion) and now you want to turn the apology he is owed into a prank. I’m starting to think that kid is more mature than you.
Also, if a company has a staffing/overload problem, working like a maniac just to be done on time is not the way to go. It’s the employer’s problem and very likely your kid-coworker sees it as such. You do your thing and then you fuck off home when your time is up. That tends to help with emotional regulation.
YTA obviously your “apology” letter is not coming from a place of sincerity, or you wouldn’t feel the need to be petty. your advanced age doesn’t make you better than a young person, y’all work the same job…
YTA
“I’m upset my so muuuuch younger than me coworker didn’t do my work. WIBTA if I wrote them an apology in cursive thinking they are too stupid to read it even though they work in the same place as me?(almost 40 btw so I’m smart)”
Rephrased your post for you.