My husband’s family lives about 2hrs away and wants to have a day where his sister and her husband and his parents get together. We currently have the only grandchild for my husband family and will be 5months old for this day. It would only be a day from about 10 am to 5pm. My husband brought up that we just really want to hang out and not go out to a restaurant since it will be a long day. His family did not understand why. They said we can take turns holding our child and we explained it’s just enjoyable for us they are not sitting up yet and we just want to relax. Was telling us how we can flip a high chair upside down and place a car set in. Which we said no due to it being a safety risk. We just explained we just rather stay back or I offered to stay back and they go eat.
Now my husband sister messaged him separate and said some of her own opinions.
To preference she is a therapist and about two years ago she had a miscarriage. After we announced our pregnancy she was not very supportive at first didn’t want to talk About it and that really upset my husband. When she came to my baby shower she cried in the front row while I was opening gifts and when she meet our child she had to step away and cry.
So now my husband is messaging his sister and she explains how she respects that he’s putting boundaries but then explains how he’s gonna be missing out on things in life and that he needs to get over it essentially and who cares if we have a crazy experience it’s memories. And then goes into explain to him that he has serious anxiety And needs to see a doctor and get on medication.
AITA For not wanting to go now and not wanting to bring our child. I offered that I would stay at the house and they can go out to eat, but we have always gone pushed back from them. We got guilt tripped into bringing our five week old for Christmas and we had to fight to have the temperature set in the house above 64° and his cousin was smoking marijuana the whole time in the house.