So, essentially, I am not even remotely interested in hockey, but I had been watching both Olympic tournaments and figured I might as well watch the final today. After the goal at the end, I texted a friend of mine, who is very into hockey and had been talking about how excited she was to watch all week, something along the lines of "that goal to win it for the US was insane!" (Not exact wording, but that’s essentially what the texts conveyed) Little did I know that she had a conflict this morning and was avoiding any news about the match so as to watch it later. I apologized profusely, but nothing was accepted or acknowledged, and she reiterated how pissed she was.
I really don’t think I did anything wrong here, but given the reaction, I feel like I need a second opinion. Is it generally poor etiquette to text the result of a live event like that?
Minor yta
It’s easy to check if she’s seen it first. It’s not a big deal, but if there’s something very simple you can do to avoid this situation, just do it next time. They’re pribably also overreacting though
YTA. It was just airing live, if she’s been even 10 minutes behind you would have spoiled it for her. Proper etiquette is to check whether someone has finished watching something before giving a major spoiler.
Yes, of course YTA for sending a text like that. It would have been just as easy to send a text worded in a way to not spoil the ending: “wow, the ending of the game was wild, have you seen it yet?”
NTA and I’m tired of spoiler culture. You want to avoid something? Throw your phone into a box and check it whenever you’re ready to.
Not ideal if you also get a text about a family emergency.
Nan died and you weren’t there because you threw your phone in a box. No spoilers though, so swings and roundabouts
NTA you had every reason to believe she was watching, due to her previous comments.
I do have a few friends that watch the same series as I do. But they record a lot, while I watch broadcast. So, I will ask ahead of time, “are you watching?” and then proceed to discuss if they have. Or wait if they haven’t.
but you spoiling the game accidentally doesn’t make you the AH. I mean, there are so many reels and memes out already.
NTA. If she’s reasonable she’ll cool off eventually. If not she just has a giant stick up her butt.
YTA but not intentionally. Thing is they might of muted certain notifications and if you don’t normally watch it they might not of expected a message from you as you say you never watch it.
In future if you’re messaging people about sports it’s easy to just say “wow are you watching the game?” first to make sure they aren’t avoiding it.
NTA She can’t even open a webpage without seeing the result.
She may have been avoiding the internet to avoid spoilers, but not expected it to come in a text from a friend who doesn’t even like hockey.
Wh sorry but your friend has been on and on about this match and the second it was over you messaged him about it. Lots of people don’t get to watch matches and shows live. You could have waited especially when you don’t even care about the sport YTA
here’s my thing i personally want to say YTA but with the context i have read minor YTA to maybe an ESH rating mostly cause you wheren’t intentionally meaning to spoil it you genuiningly thought she had already seen it and when she my guess blew up on you apologized profusely back it’s her choice to accept the apology or not and she can stay pissed thats fine, but in my own eye’s i probably wouldn’t have gotten pissed annoyed sure, but you weren’t meaning it to be vindictive would of been different if she texted u ahead of time of like ‘hey i got things i’m going to be doing today if u watch the match plz do not text me about it as i probably won’t be able to see it till after this time frame’ and u text her the results anyway.
just maybe next time ask if she seen the match before u text her the results.
Btw, Rosebud is the sled