I’m using a throwaway because she knows my real reddit. So I hope you all understand.
I (29F) am a homeowner, I inherited a 3 bedroom house after my Aunt died of cancer two years ago. She had no children and we were close so it was a no brainer that she’d leave it to me. I spent the first year after the house passed to me renovating it and making it feel like mine, it was around the time this finished that my friend (29F) had to leave her boyfriends flat after they broke up and she didn’t have a backup plan. I let her move in with me and told her she was of course welcome to stay.
I gave her the second largest bedroom which is 13 square meters with its own bathroom. I have the master bedroom and the box room is my office as I work from home. I told her that the bedroom she had was her space and to decorate it however she wanted. Beyond that she had access to all communal areas of the house, the livingroom, kitchen, the garden. The only places I asked her to not go was my bedroom (uninvited), my office, and the loft which i’d renovated into my D&D room. I’m a DM and my party meets every Saturday to play.
It’s been a year and I thought things were going well. I don’t charge her rent, my only request is she split the utility bills and groceries bill. I had a few rules but nothing insane. A heads up if she had an overnight guest, no loud noise after 11pm on a weekday and to keep her own space clean. She has randomly told me yesterday that she needs more space. That it’s not fair she only has her bedroom, bathroom and the communal areas while I have my bedroom, bathroom, office, loft, and communal areas.
I was shocked, she’d never expressed any unhappiness with this layout that i’d noticed. I told her that yeah I had more space, but she had to keep in mind it was my house and i’d set up these spaces for me before she even came to stay. She got upset with this and said I was being unfair and we need to rethink the layout of the house.
This has made me a bit uncomfortable. I let her stay when she had nowhere else to go and I was happy to give her free control over her own space but I can’t help but feel this is rather ridiculous. AITA