I (13M) was walking to my dad’s car after school and called shotgun to my brother (18M) (shotgun is basically a verbal reservation for the passenger seat for those unaware) and he grumbles out something that I could only make out the word taking. When I get to the car, he’s not far in front of me, and I see him reaching for the passenger seat. I remind him that I called shotgun. He says "well I never sit up here can I just have it?" I think it’s a good time to mention that he’s always telling me "I don’t care" when I call shotgun. I tell him that I called shotgun so I am entitled to the seat. He then says "fine have your stupid f’ing seat anyways" and slams the door into me. I’m at a loss for words. My father, who saw and heard the entire interaction, says that I need to give my brother the seat before changing the punishment to both of us not having the passenger side seat and having to sit in the back together. My brother had also later said that he was mad because he talked with one of his teachers about his grades in general which he deemed a "sensitive topic" because he’s failing most of his classes with no a’s or b’s. I just want a second opinion even though I’m almost certain I’m right.
This is stupid ESH except for the dad. What a nothing argument.
NTA
But maybe let him have it anyways. Sometimes people’s cry for help doesn’t always look like one. Sounds like he’s going through some serious stuff right now and needs to catch a break.
YTA. I know your only 13 but calling shot gun is only a thing is everyone agrees. Also you said your brother never cares but asked this one time to get the seat. Your past the age to learn compromise.
You called shotgun. Them’s the rules.
ESH. Grow up.
YTA. He normally doesn’t ask for it but asked for it and you couldn’t just say yes??
Shotgun isn’t some magical word that automatically works. You’re old enough to take turns with your brother.
ETA, YTA
YTA. Your brother usually says he doesn’t care and let’s you have the front seat because he’s being nice. The kind thing to do would be to let him have the seat when he asked for it.
Your 13, hes 18 doesnt matter if you call shotgun you get in the back anyway. Any in some states you should still be in a booster seat (luls) depending on height and weight.
YTA.
Calling “shotgun” isn’t some magic word that automatically reserves the seat to you. Your brother got to the car first, thus he gets first pick of where he sits.
Even so, this is insanely childish to be arguing over
ESH I think your dad should say no more calling shotgun and make you both sit in back for a while. You need to be less of a stickler of who said what first and less inflexible about taking turns. And your brother needs not to slam the car door into someone no matter how tough of a day he had.
damn i havent called shotgun since i was your age. i even ride in the back when i go places with my germaphobe mom YTA time to grow up
Congratulations on ensuring he never gives you a ride anywhere.
YTA btw