I wanna quit watching porn because I can tell it’s giving me a fucked up perception of women and for a bunch of other reasons. My question is, is it fine to keep masturbating or should I stop that too? Would masturbating be counterproductive by still somehow rotting my brain if I kept masturbating with only thoughts of women? And what about sexting or receiving nudes, is that pretty much the same as porn? I hope I’m making sense, I just don’t completely understand the psychology of it all
You’ll naturally masturbate a lot less but it’s not like it’s really that bad for you without porn
It’s not bad for many people with porn lol, I’d even argue most, but I guess that’s controversial.
Every *single* day and/or multiple times a day consistently indicates an issue though.
I disagree. Frequency is something that varies person to person. I masturbated every single day for most of my life and that was in addition to a healthy sex life with my wife where during that same time we generally had sex 3-4 times a week. Earlier in our relationship it was 5-6 times a week.
I started having less interest and that was all well and good, but eventually I got my testosterone levels checked and it was low so I started taking TRT. Well, now I’m masturbating at least once a day, often twice, sometimes three times and sex with wife has gone back to 2-4 times a week.
The act of masturbating is NEVER bad for you in any sort of physical sense. Only if you are obsessing about masturbation and masterbating to the exclusion of normal activities and responsibilities, or masturbating at inappropriate times and places would I consider masturbating to be “bad.”
Having sex 2-4 times a week is pretty healthy tbh and you should be either masturbating or having sex at least 20 times a month to stay healthy
Masturbation is a perfectly natural and even quite healthy thing to do.
In fact, I’d say it’s more unnatural to not masturbate than to do it. I would never recommend someone stop unless it becomes a compulsive activity and interferes with their life.
Agreed. It is kinda funny though to think that like…everyone does it. Like very more likely than not, Bill Gates or Obama sometimes needs to wack one off lmao
A long time before there was porn on the internet guys were taking care of business. Porn used to be hard to come by and only sold in sleazy places so a lot of guys used vivid imaginations with thoughts of women and memories of experiences.. It is healthy, normal and not rotting your brain.
There is absolutely nothing unhealthy about masturbating. There’s no reason to quit unless you have some sort of compulsive disorder masturbating that affects your daily life or sexual relationships. Masturbating is good for your health.
Porn is questionable as to if it has a negative, neutral, or positive impact and can depend on the specific porn and issues you think it’s causing.
But normal, good old hand masturbation isn’t going to cause serious issues. It can help if you make whatever you’re doing feel as similar to a vagina as possible (there are toys that more accurately simulate the sensation better than your hand), assuming you’re straight, but it’s not absolutely necessary for most men.
If you’re feeling it becoming unhealthy to you or your perception of others nothing wrong with quitting porn. Don’t listen to the gooners. I’ve pretty much stopped all porn since being married and I can definitely see benefits in many areas. I was using it to an unhealthy manner myself.
In regards to masturbating I’d say there’s nothing wrong with dialing it back but cutting it out all together seems unnecessary
Best of luck!
Use the underwear ads like I used to lol
If you feel like porn is having a negative effect on you, it’s totally fine to take a break or quit. You do not have to stop masturbation – and I personally would encourage you continue it for your prostate health – because of that. I’ve absolutely seen porn breaks be good for people of any gender, including myself. It can at least give you a chance to reevaluate what turns you on without an algorithm pushing trends and ‘most watched’ at you.
And consentual images between you and another person are just fine. Relax!
If you think that porn is rotting your brain, then by all means, stop consuming it. There’s plenty of research out there that shows it’s not exactly great for you in its modern form. I quit years ago and to be honest, like any junky, I still get the itch but I stay TF away from it. My sex life in my marriage and my relationship with my wife of 27+ (now) years have only benefitted, contrary to what the Internet often tells you (because pornography is a 60-70 *billion* dollar industry).
Edit: sexting and nudes. If you’re going to go cold turkey, you may as well go cold turkey all the way.
As for not cranking one out, good luck, and honestly that’s probably a bridge too far for most of us. It’s yours, you’re allowed to play with it, just don’t get socially weird about it.
You should choose to do what you think will make you feel better.
Tested the waters and find if you see the quality of life improvement you were hoping for.
I gave up porn and masturbating for like six months at one point. It was an interesting exercise but I stopped because it didn’t have the impact I was looking for.
Edit: typo
Never give up, don’t be a quitter