For context only I (28) work, it was around 1:45pm, she (22) went to bed around 5:00am because she slept all day yesterday.
We were both sitting on the couch. I asked my girlfriend if she would mind making me an egg and cheese sandwich and she said I’m still sleepy.
She said “you really want me to dirty up the kitchen I just cleaned last night?”
I said “I guess?”
She said “okay well I’m barely awake so if I burn myself I’m blaming you.”
She proceeds to make me an egg and cheese sandwich. She walks over with a spoonful and egg and said “here try it, is it fucking good or not?”
“Yeah.”
Then she hands me the plate I say thank you, and the bread is somehow both burnt and undercooked at the same time, and she used sour dough so it was sooo bitter. I took the top off and folded the other one.
She sits down with a bowl of cereal and asks what was wrong with it. I didn’t want to fight so I just said “nothing,” and got up and took a shower before work.
She opens the shower curtain and keeps asking for a kiss. She apologized and says she was just irritable because she burned herself and burned the bread because she can’t work right in the morning.
I said “then why agree?”
She said “because I knew it would be brought up later that I don’t like cooking for you on the morning.”
I said “it’s 2:00pm.”
And she stormed off.
I can’t help but think she sabotaged the meal on purpose, but she can’t cook very well so I’m torn. AITA?
Edit: added ages and more context
YTA. Why can’t you make your own egg and cheese sandwich?
YTA. You could have saved yourself all that trouble & make it yourself instead of waking her up.
Shes 22 and you’re almost 30. Of course she is gonna whine & complain. But she ended up making it anyway. Cause you insisted on her doing it. If you want it a certain way like your mom made it, DIY.
Yta. Make it yourself.
ESH – you got a 22 year old gf with no responsibilities who sounds entitled seeing as she doesn’t work and acts like this, but you also sound like you have a misogynistic make me a sandwich vibes
Learn to feed yourself. You’re a big boy now.
ESH. I can’t imagine as an adult asking someone who wasn’t already cooking to whip me up something to eat. Especially if I already think they can’t cook well. But she’s ridiculous with her “if I burn myself, I blame you” comment, and the “I can’t work right” comment.
>but she can’t cook very well so I’m torn. AITA?
Yes. Make your own sandwich next time. She’s your gf, not your personal cook.
YTA
**YTA**
Treating a partner like a servant is never a good look.
She sounds depressed and, unappreciated.
If you dont have an agreement that she does the cooking. Her employment status is irrelevant and YTA make your own food.
Don’t wake someone up to make you food. It being 2 pm is also irrelevant.
If you have an agreement that while only you work she provides food for you before and after work. Then you arent.
If there is no kind of agreement you are both children playing pretend house.
Adults capable of adult relationships set expectations for each other based on If one works or both work which is how they avoid these issues.
Unless you are somehow disabled and incapable of making yourself a damn sandwich on your own at your big age of 28 years old holy shit then yta. Actually, if you are then YTA anyway. She’s your girlfriend, not your servant.
YTA she is not ur maid, U got hands. Unless u guys agreed on the term of her being a stay at home, she doesn’t have to make u a sandwich whenever you feel like it.
YTA
1. Why exactly couldn’t you make your own food?
2. Why didn’t you say thank you? (even if the food wasn’t quite right.)
3. Why did you call her out for it being 2pm, when for her that was morning?
It’s like you wanted the fight.
ESH you both act like children
Just make your own egg and cheese sandwiches, and clean up after yourself if you make a mess, sheesh. YTA