So me (22F) and my roommate (23F) share a fridge. She put big sticky notes on her food saying “DO NOT TOUCH”
But she ate my ice cream before and said she thought my stuff was “communal.” I told her it wasnt and she said I shouldve labeled it then
so I started labeling all my stuff but a few days later I come home and see leftovers in the fridge with no label so I ate it. Figured unlabeled is fair game right??
Well it was hers and she crashed out at me saying I did it on purpose and im childish
But like… she made that rule not me??
AITA lol
YTA
Like I get it. It was her dumb ass rule but you didnt need to stoop to her dumb ass level. I think it is a good lesson for her though. Maybe next time she won’t steal your food. I wouldn’t make it a habit though.
NTA of course. It’s not like you retaliated by eating her labeled food. You simply did *the exact same thing she did to you* when you ate unlabeled food. Since she said that unlabeled food was communal, you’re NTA.
I’m getting “rules for thee but not for me” vibes from your roommate, so I’m wondering if she’s also like this with other problems…but that’s just speculation on my part.
ETA: I’m seeing a lot of judgments calling OP the AH. The rule established by the roommate was that unlabeled food was up for grabs. There was no exemption for leftovers. I’m seeing people call OP the AH for eating the roommate’s food on purpose, but the roommate originally ate OP’s food purposefully, so that logic doesn’t hold up.
You did do it on purpose and it was childish. You knew damn well that those weren’t your leftovers. YTA.
Lol, while I will agree you were petty in this. If they can’t follow the rules they put in their own place then they are also going to have to learn the consequences of their actions. I will say if possible maybe try to be adults about this and have a healthy conversation about boundaries and what’s fair. This just smells like a war that’s brewing that’s going to eventually lead to you guys needed to separate as roommates
For 22 and 23 year olds, both of you are acting like you’re 5 years old.
ESH.
Justified? Yes. Asshole? Yes. 😂
Asshole but she had it coming. Well played
Nah girl NTA. That’s hilarious and she deserved it. But maybe instead there needs to be a “communal” label and assume any other food is not up for grabs. That’s easier than painstakingly labelling everything you bring home from the grocery store or put away for leftovers.
Something like “eat me! :)” or “community cupcakes, enjoy!” Is a lot friendlier than “DO NOT EAT” and “MINE”
ESH.
You know what is proper behaviour. You told her what that is. You do not have to stoop to bad behaviour to prove a point or get back at her. As Michelle Obama says, when they take the low road, you take the high road.
ESH. You were in fact doing it on purpose and passive aggressively. It’s a child putting a finger in her little brother’s face saying “I’m not touching you.” Meanwhile, your roommate is selfish and obtuse. You both need to grow up, but you can only control yourself, so: grow up.
you did do it on purpose though lol, so playing dense isn’t going to help your case.
you both are 22&23 but don’t act like it.
you knew it was her food and chose to eat it anyway since all your food was labeled. at least be an adult enough to own when you did shit like that haha.
eta; yta. but like i get it to an extent.
ESH. Your roommate should not have eaten your food. But you knew she didn’t want you to eat her food, either, even though she didn’t label it this time. But now I guess you’re even. So, time for a fresh start.
You should really sit down and talk about it. I’m guessing the new rule should be: Nobody eats anything in the fridge that they didn’t buy themselves.
And then figure out what you want to do about condiments.
Good luck.
She made this bed. Now she gets to lie in it. NTA.
ESH. Two wrongs don’t make a right.
Also, why are you stooping to petty tit-for-tat revenge over ice cream? Are you sure you’re 22 and not 5?
You both have some growing up to do. You can’t control her maturity, but hopefully you figure out for yourself how to manage conflict like an adult by doing some introspection, rather than learning from the experience of continuing to engage in very stupid actions.