AITA or not letting my niece enjoy the small things because she constantly having behavioral issues. For example there was some school works she missed because she was out sick. The teacher sent home a list of things she needed to complete at the beginning of the week. We are asking her and asking her but she says "She didn’t give me a list or I don’t know where it is." On that Thursday night @10pm she says "Oh I think this is the list…" I feel like she knew she had it but didn’t want to do the work. Understood she’s a kid but she shouldn’t expect to go outside or be able to play her game. She lied.
NTA. Where are her parents in all this?
Dad idk and mom doesn’t have custody.
Are you the legal guardian or are you the support system for her guardian?
So she lives with only you?
NTA but why is this on you to decide? If you’re parenting her, deciding punishments and making sure homework gets done, then you’re too parental to be a “fun aunt” – that’s reserved for the aunt that is literally just for the fun
I guess you can say I’m kinda a mom and aunt. I haven’t found a middle ground yet. I practically raised her since she was a baby. But I don’t want to be a mom. I wanted to be a fun aunt.
You cant. Priority is mom
If you legally have custody and are raising her under your roof, you are the parent.
If those things are not the case, this isn’t your discipline to carry out because you are not the parent.
It’s one or the other. You can’t be both the parent and the cool friend. Friends want each other to always like them and never be mad at them. Parents can’t worry about being liked all the time, because they have too many life lessons to teach their children that are counter to what children think they want.
NTA but you gotta pick a role.
I’m cleaning that you are responsible for this child. NTA- whether she lied or not is irrelevant. She is still responsible for the work so whether it was intentionally misplaced or not, the result is the same. The work wasn’t done. If the work isn’t done, fun time can’t happen.
*gleaning
INFO Why is it any of your business whether or not your niece has done her homework? For that matter, why would it be up to you whether or not your sibling’s child has permission to do anything? Is she an orphan? Are you her legal guardian? If not, that’s between her and her parents. It isn’t for you to correct her behavior. Also, to characterize procrastinating on homework as a “behavioral issue” is more than a little extreme.