This past weekend my (24m) cousin (27m) got married. I was one of the groomsmen and I felt comfortable around the others because I got to know them well at the bachelor trip a month ago.
Anyway both my cousin’s parents and his wife’s parents are super rich so the wedding was super bougie. They got married at this like estate and there was this whole “getting ready” area for the grooms. We came from the hotel in our suits in our limo at 12, waited while the bridesmaids got ready in a separate area, then did pictures. After the wedding there was a small gap (think two hours) before we made our entrances to the reception so we hung out there. There was a bartender for a private bar and two attendants (both men). Like I said wealthy, Long Island wedding.
Anyway we had time to kill before our entrances so we started playing drinking games. The groom was off taking more pictures somewhere. We hadn’t eaten in a while and drank a bit before the ceremony so we were all kinda buzzed. After a cup knocked over in stack cup and we had a narrow call of beer getting on our suits, the attendant suggested we change clothes. We said we left our spare clothes back at the hotel, and he said “it’s fine if you play in your boxers, as long as you’re comfortable with it, there’s only men here.”
We figured why not. When he said “boxers” probably only one or two guys had actual boxers, the rest had boxer briefs. I had like v cut briefs on. For context I did wear an undershirt as did all but two guys.
Anyway we played like that for a half hour before the same attendant came back and said we should actually get dressed. I assumed that meant we were getting called but it was actually forty minutes before we made our entrance. Didn’t think much of it.
Later at the afters one of the groomsmen came up drunk to me and said he didn’t care, but the reason they told us to get dressed was because two of the attendants were talking about my underwear. My gf was mortified I did that and said that’s not what they meant when they said we could play in our boxers. Did I screw up.
NTA sounds like you where not only doing exactly what you said they could but actually had the decency to keep yourself more covered up than what they said honestly unless this somehow gets bacj to the bride and groom or the place makes a bigger issue out if this than whats already occurred in just would forget about it and keep enjoying the celebration.
I’m so confused. Briefs are considered naked?
NTA, anyone who suggests boxers are fine but clutches their pearls at briefs is a weirdo. They’re both normal/expected men’s underwear.
NAH, you did what was comfortable for you. Someone else was uncomfortable and asked you to cover up, and you did. Something got lost in the communication here, but ultimately no one was hurt.
YTA for getting drunk before the reception even started. Sounds like you guys were messy. And taking off your clothes was weird.
NTA.. He said “Play in your undies” you said OK. He then said “Get dressed” and you said OK.
You were just following instructions like a good groomsman. Not your fault there were feelings about your undies.
NAH
It was a genuine misunderstanding. You thought that ‘boxers’ just implied ‘underwear.’ The attendant thought you understood that boxers meant actual boxers.
You got dressed again when asked and didn’t make a fuss.
NTA. You did nothing wrong.
IMO briefs are way more secure against mishaps than boxers. Rather an outline than the actual thing.
I googled v cut breifs. some are appropriate, some are very not. If you could link a pic of what you were wearing then we would know.
What did I just read?
You were playing a drinking game at a “super bougie” Long Island wedding in your *tighty whities*?
NAH because that’s just too funny, *and* your girlfriend is right to be embarrassed/concerned about your lack of decorum/judgment.
NTA especially if it was just guys around. Bros have seen eachother’s bodies before.
This seems like some brief kink fan fic
NTA I wouldn’t worry about it
NTA. You followed instructions