My older brother was planning for his 25th he wanted to go to a Cardi B concert. I’m not a big fan, but I agreed since it would be our first concert together, and we usually don’t celebrate birthdays together due to our age gap and different social circles. He didn’t know which city he wanted to go to, but was leaning towards NYC. The tickets was like $700, front row, and said that’s out of my budget can he find sections for $450-$550.
About 3 weeks later I ask him if he found tickets? He told me that he wasn’t feeling the concert anymore because with out birthdays being a month part (Mother in March, His in April, and mine May) he wouldn’t have enough money for that concert and pay bills (car note, his daily grass \[iykyk\]) I said okay but let me know if anything changed
On 2/16 my mom and brother is on the phone with our cousin KIKI (37F) about what are they going to wear to the concert. And Mar is upset about the tickets keep going up and I have yet to pay it. I was confused because 1. I thought he wasn’t going and 2. He didn’t tell me the price. I told him that and he said "I should’ve gone to Cardi Insta and see the price". Once again Date? Location? Seating? tell me something I can work with. He finally tells me $350 and ask do I have the money. I said I do, but I had to go to the bank and see if they were able to take off money on my card if not than give me 3-5 business days for it to show on my personal bank and i zelle him. He texted back, the exact words, "So i’ll pay for your ticket just give it back to me in either payment plans lols or when you could okay." I set up payment plan and he brought the tickets.
Last week I went on a trip to Florida so I was running my outfits by him. He said I needed grey/black shoes to finish my last fit. We found a pair it cost -$99, I would’ve rather gotten crocs and have it lean, but he paid and said it would be my early birthday gift, they (mar & mom) walk around a store and ask me if I want anything, I get items and go towards to pay, card declines (forgot it was locked) and he paid for it again -$114. After I come back from my trip I keep telling him the second my paycheck I would start paying him back, he said don’t worry about it.
Today him and my mom are talking and he said that my bill is now $750 and it will continue to go up **every day** (could be $5, $50, $100 idk). My mom is saying that he’s joking, but I don’t think so. I probably sound bratty, but i’m still paying him back for the shoes and clothes, but I thought we had an agreement and now he’s changing the story last minute saying "I’m teaching you how the real world work". All the money I have is $715 and I don’t get paid again until 3/21 so I’m still going to have to pay interest and probably not have enough for an outfit before the concert. My mom is offering help me, but I can’t ask her to pay for me again after she spend so much already. So WIBTA?
Your brother sounds like a scam artist. NTA
OMG you need to grow up!!! If you can’t afford it DONT GO!!! You don’t need a new outfit for every event #1 ) you don’t need to go to an expensive concert in NYC if YOU can’t afford it!! #2) Don’t let anyone say ” I will pay for it you can pay me back” #3) especially if you don’t make the kind of money, which clearly you don’t!! DONT DO IT!! I don’t know how old you are but you are on the WRONG tract. Take English lessons your writing and punctuation sucks.
Did you read the post
You had me on the whole thing until you got to the last sentence. His sentence structure is better than yours.
NTA, brother needs to communicate better.
Also, you really sound like you are getting roped in to spending money you dont have.
NTA. What kind of person does that family? Immediately shut down any talk of the concert. You’re not going. Don’t give him anything to hold over you. You thought it was off and he’s trying to scalp you. Do not pay him a dime. Tell him that’s how the world works. And don’t pay him for anything that he but for you that he said you didn’t have to. Big lesson learned, your brother is a jerk and a scalper and never arrange for an event where somebody else pays.
NTA but you sound like you have awful spending habits!! You’re going to Florida, but need a new pair of shoes to finish your last fit (ridiculous already), but you don’t have the money for them… so you buy it anyway?? Then spend another $114 you don’t have? You seriously need to check yourself on your priorities and to not buy things so frivolously, especially if you don’t have the money for it.
If he didn’t verbally say or in writing say all that shit and you agree to it then he can’t charge you interest when he didn’t tell you you were going to have to pay interest. That’s not how it works He can’t just change the terms of the agreement at the last minute and he said that the shoes would be a freaking birthday gift. You don’t make somebody pay for a birthday gift.
If mom offered to pay let her pay your brother than you pay mom. Sounds like she won’t be petty like your brother. You should have held firm on saying no. It’s ok to say something is outside of what you are spending. Financial stability is more important than an experience especially in this economy. You could have also budgeted better. Get the ticket but don’t plan on a new outfit. Use what you have. Don’t let other people tell you how to spend your money. You work hard for it and should do what you want with it.
NTA. Tell him you can’t afford it and he should sell the ticket. If you can return any of the other things purchased, do so.
I’m no stranger to buying a new outfit for a concert that I’m really into. But that’s sitting front row. I wouldn’t be going all out for a new outfit if I wasn’t front row.
NTA op your brother doesn’t like you… I’m serious. Tell him to return the ticket. And you op return the other items. You do not have money to be spending on this especially for a brother that is a scam artist.
In the real world, usurous interest rates are criminal.
YWNBTA if you tell him to sell the ticket.
But FFS, stop spending money you don’t have on luxuries you don’t need.