AITA for getting mad and sending a mean text to my husband and sister in law for claiming my sister in law was me? So they didn’t exactly steal my identity to where it matters with the law or anything, but they did claim that my sister in law was me in order to get her into our community rec center for a few bucks off. (Maybe $9 less). Well they ended up taking a picture of her to register “me” into their system. So if I ever want to go which I will obviously to take my children swimming or whatever my sister in laws picture will come up. (I assume they implemented this since people were just scamming the system saying they were family) My husband is just laughing and thinks it’s funny. Now I have to go down there and fix it.
The cherry on top is my husband sent a text in a group chat with my sister in law and I didn’t notice at all. I sent a very mean text which I have no problem sending my husband, but I wouldn’t send to my sister in law. I clearly shouldn’t have said that either way, but the fact he doesn’t care and is rubbing it in my face that I have to deal with it pissed me off.
My husband text “That’s our aquatic center account 🤣 “ (along with a picture of my sister in law registered as my name and address”
Then I replied “You guys are so fucking cheap now you’re affecting me”
I apologized to my sister in law right away obviously.
Edit: I apologized to my sister in law because she’s not malicious like it sounds. She’s a very nice person, she’s just aloof and a follower. I have a feeling this was more my husband’s doing hence his reaction.
My husband just got back home I’m on my way to the rec center.
Also, I’m aware that the impact of them doing this isn’t crazy and I can get this fixed, I’m sure most of you can tell it’s a pattern of carelessness from my husband and not caring about me.
The guy at the desk was shocked it happened but nice about it, I paid the extra amount she would have owed ($9) and they had to get the director of operations to come down and sign off for changing some details and the picture to me.
NTA, but your husband certainly is.
NTA – I would be pretty mad too.
NTA but why are you apologizing to anyone? You’re right in that they are causing problems for you. Letting the smaller issues go just let’s them know they can keep pushing. Shit shut it down now.
NTA. They literally caused you a mess to deal with, without even asking. the fact that your husband finds it funny is also annoying af. As soon as they tried to take her picture, she should’ve given it up.
NTA. Your husband is pretending his sister is his wife, gross. Secondly he doesn’t care that it causes you hassle to get it fixed on behalf of your children, in fact, thinks it’s funny to prioritize his sister over his own wife and kids. Your husband is grotesque. It gives me a true ick.
YTA…for apologizing to your SIL. She and your husband are treating you like a doormat and it will continue until you stand up for yourself.
Wait? Is that all you said?? They were playing stupid games. And you didn’t say anything crazy. I’m not even convinced it warranted an apology considering the circumstances. NTA.
NTA and I think your text was perfect.
Girl. Grow a fuckin back bone. Your husband is prioritizing his sisters wants over his wife and kids and then laughing at you for being upset.
This!! While this seems small now, it’s actually a huge 🚩🚩🚩. When your partner sides with his family over you even once, it begins a pattern that can be detrimental to the relationship. Because he won’t stand up for you, you are then put in the position of having to stand up for yourself which will inevitably make you “the problem”. Don’t let them gaslight you on this one. *They* should be apologizing to *you* for having to clean up the mess they made.
NTA but these things are best handled with natural consequences and petty revenge.
Go to the aquatic center with your ID and marriage license. Also take a pic of your SIL. Explain your husband and SIL defrauded them and you want three things: 1) your picture added to your membership, 2) a lifetime ban for your identity stealing.SIL, and 3) for your husband’s pic to be replaced with one of Dwayne Johnson so he cannot access the facility. Then “go swimming as a family” and watch things melt down.
I would go there and report it have her taking off and I would tell them if they do anything like that again you will report it
NTA but great, now your husband or his sister can be responsible for taking your kids every time they want to go since you can’t register yourself there. 🥰
(Unless, of course, they want to fix this.)
I get that you like your SIL, but she’s an adult who could have said no at any point. She’s not innocent, and if it’s his sibling, I’m confident she thought it was funny enough to go along with it.
You said this was a small glimpse of a pattern of carelessness from your husband. He sounds immature if annoying shit like this happens enough for you to notice a pattern. Tell him that. Tell him it’s annoying and it happens too often for you to find little “pranks” like that funny or endearing anymore. It’s annoying and a pain in the ass to fix.