I (23F) have an identical twin sister (Sabrina). Me and Sabrina pretty much have done everything together. Even to this day, we live extremely close to each other.
Me and Sabrina are dark skinned black, so of course, we’ve faced colorism and racism. Sabrina decided to be an outspoken activist against colorism and racism. At first it was good. We love to see people speaking out against injustice. However she started to exaggerate some things that never happened.
Sabrina started going on TikTok and different social media platforms talking about how the other black kids at recess wouldn’t let her play with them because she was too dark. That never happened by the way. We were always in the same class in elementary school so we always had recess together. She also said how in high school, she got no men because she wasn’t the beauty standard. We had tons of men approach us each day all from different races. She also said that black people refused to hire her for jobs but picked light skinned candidates. Mind you she’s only ever had like 2 jobs before and she’s never tried to apply anywhere else.
What really ticked me off was when I was watching her TikTok live and she made up a lie. She said that our granny told her she was too dark and she needed to bleach herself to look better. People were eating it up in the comments but I was like wtf. I immediately called her and told her to stop lying about this shit. We got into it. She told me I’m an AH for trying to downplay her experience. I told her I was there and this shit never happened that she’s saying. We haven’t talked ever since.
AITA
No you’re not in the wrong for wanting her to stop lying I would have confronted her too and then told everyone she was lying. I cant stand a liar. Maybe she’s doing it to yk get more support and attention on the topic but it’s actually just a lot more harmful
NTA. I’d have called her out on her TikTok.
NTA. What she meant by “you’re an AH for trying to downplay her experience”, is “you’re an AH for trying to keep her from making money off of lies”. You are not the AH. She is.
NTA if you were literally present for the events she’s rewriting, fact-checking your own life isn’t “downplaying,” it’s reality.
NTA. You did the right thing. This is unhealthy and wrong so you can’t enable her.
NTA. you should start your own tiktok about how fabricating events hurts the fight against racism and colorism.
She’s trying to play the victim while villainizing other black people. She IS part of the problem.
You’re NTA, she is.
NTA, if she really cared about being an activist, she would be listening to and sharing the stories of other people who have faced injustice. This just feels like a ploy for attention instead of anything actually helpful. Even just regurgitating a news article related to an issue she cares about for an audience would be more helpful towards raising awareness than just making stuff up.
Show your grandmother. If she’s anything like mine she’ll put an end to that quick. NTA
I’ll say this. Being twins doesn’t mean you experienced everything together or the same. Two people can be raised in the same house, same parents, and have two different experiences. It wasn’t until I was 30 that my sister, who’s only a year apart, and I had conversations about growing up that we realized we missed so much of the others trauma. As well as how different our perspectives were on shared traumas. I’m not saying she isn’t lying. I’m just saying look at the possibility that you don’t share every experience nor view it with the same lenses.
nah this is correct. your sister is lying about your family members for clout and attention. That deserves to be called out.
What your sister doesn’t realize is that this behavior is profoundly anti-black in general and specifically towards your granny. Terrible. Or she realizes and doesn’t care. Even worse.
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