I am after everyone’s opinions please as my whole family are at a loss for what to do. Me 24 Male and my sister 18 Female have been in a sticky situation. She had her first child in September and immediately moved in with her partner (who she had only been with less than a year at the time) and his mum and her 4 other children, shortly after they moved back in to our mum’s house due to over crowding and my mum offering a roof over her head temporarily until she got housing from the council.
However, recently she has had another positive pregnancy test and is planning on keeping the baby. However, our mum has said she can’t house her and her baby and the baby’s dad anymore due to lack of space and the stress it’s causing her. I have gotten involved and told her to pipe down and start respecting her mother and because of this she’s getting her partner involved being all mouthy. Who’s in the wrong, am I being the asshole for telling my sister to stop speaking to our mother the way she is.
Edit: as a response to a comment here’s more context as to what my sister was saying to my mum: Everything my sister said was absolutely vile, told her she has made her bed and to lie in it and she’s never going to see her grandchild again. Told her she will be to blame for having her child taken away from her if she’s made homeless.. she’s just being entirely cruel..
More info is needed surrounding what they are saying to each other but ultimately this is between two adults and you should stay out of it.
Our mum is struggling mentally to be honest and is struggling to fight her battles herself.
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NTA that’s your mom too.
If your sister and her partner are unable to take care of children and provide them with a stable home then they should stop having them.
They should be extremely grateful to your mom for allowing them to live there and be respectful.
NTA, she shouldn’t be having another kid if she can’t even afford a roof over her head.
More info is needed on the interactions between your sister and your mom, what is she saying that is causing you to tell her to pipe down?
You said your sister is speaking to your mom like sh-t but then added no examples or descriptions of how your sister is speaking to your mom 🙄
You can tell your sister off all you want, but only your mother can put her foot down about how she is treated. If you actually want to help your mom, help her evict the assholes.
She’s received an eviction notice, this is why she’s kicking off basically saying our mum doesn’t care about her or her grandchild
Nta
But for a baby gift gif them a box of condoms with instructions
Not at all, why do you really think his mom kicked them out. Your Mom needs to send them back now. Don’t wait for housing assistance.