So last week my partner of 2 years after a very normal day of chatting decided to send me a long paragraph about how he cant do this relationship anymore with reasons that didn’t make sense to me because they were never an issue (stuff like calling him when he is too busy although he never communicated when he is busy, and talking to his family which never was an issue bc he always talked to mine)
Now i did not know where this came from and i know people are entitled to leave if they want to. I freaked out on the spot and called him to talk to him, he seemed to also be very emotional while talking to me and very angry (literally dont know where it came from) and was saying that i dont love him for him and i want him to change..
His version of me wanting him to “change” is me telling him that i want to help him be healthier, to hit the gym, encouraging him to shower bc he struggles and goes on weeks with no showering sometimes and to clean his space.. literally never came from a place of judgement and he always was happy about how i approached him with such things with care and gentleness
I was not the perfect partner but i was not awful either.. i flew him out to my country to meet me, he is trans so i helped him buy things that make him feel more masculine, i took care of him in every way, whenever he is struggling with food i’d order him food and i’d get him gifts (he got me stuff too, but not nearly as close bc of his financial situation)
Now after being patient with all these struggles? He chooses to hang up mid talking and block me everywhere, i tried to reach out begging him for at least closure to whats happening and why is he choosing to do it this way and he refused to talk or tell me anything, he just silently blocks every attempt 💔
I dont know what to do, its been a week and ive been trying to understand but i genuinely dont get why it happened and what he was thinking and WHY.. i feel so stuck i dont know how to move on when i didn’t even get the chance to talk, to understand or explain…
“encouraging him to shower bc he struggles and goes on weeks with no showering”
2026 has got to be the year you women stop facilitating dudes with stank ass hygiene
You were buying him food, flying him out, and begging him to shower. You weren’t his girlfriend, you were his mother. He rebelled like a teenager and ran away. Let him go.