Hello! Just some background info, I am 19F and still living with my parents but I do pay rent to live here. My father is unemployed and my mother is working. I do go to work, I pay my loans + bills on time. I do chores when I’m supposed to etc. I also give money when my parents ask for it. I’ve noticed that since being home and making my own money, my parents have been trying to micromanage me in a way that still makes me feel like I’m 12.
For starters, I don’t sleep until late in the night (I used to work the grave yard shift for my first year in college and I find it hard to get rest until 6am) and on days I work I’m sure to get ample rest. My parents have a problem with me using the bathroom at all in the middle of the night because our floor boards creak which I get, so I sleep between when they do around 4am and just hang out in my bed until I have to take out my dog around 6. They have a problem with me eating and drinking past 9pm. They have issues with me going to bed whenever I do. If my dad doesn’t hear me sleeping it makes him lose sleep. I do have a younger brother and he is allowed to do as he pleases and that includes being exempt from chores.
I personally think it’s none of their concern when I sleep as long as I’m not doing anything unreasonable and not making noise. I also don’t think it’s any of their concern what I’m doing in the middle of the night as long as I’m home, in my room, quiet, literally not a sound. I’ve also brought up to my mother how my dad often pops into my room and opens my door like an fbi agent to yell at me to go to sleep. She’s told me to pretend I’m sleeping to just keep him happy. But regardless even if I was he’d call my name to wake me up and tell me to go back to sleep.
Another issue is my sugar intake and them commenting on it. I don’t indulge in sugar and maybe have a cup a juice a day and the rest is water besides an occasional brownie that my dad makes regularly. They’ve told me diabetes runs heavy in the family so it’s either I eat a brownie and drink water for the rest of the day or I have juice and no other sugar. I’ve been abiding by what they’ve said and they’re still not happy. Nobody’s eating the brownies fast enough to my father’s liking and now he wants me to eat more of them. I subtly remind him of what he’s told me and I’m only following what I’ve been told.
I understand parents will show concern for their children’s well beings. But I feel like there’s a fine line between respecting my space as an adult and being their child. But I also understand their house their rules but I’m also paying to live here like a tenant. So AITA for doing what I’d like to in my room when it’s not bothering anyone?