We are both in highschool about to graduate and have been applying like crazy to jobs especially me i have no luck at all and then suddenly my girls dad gets her a job because he knows the manager and im happy for her i love her with all of my heart but everytime i hear her talk about the job and working hours it just makes my stomach drop and i get so mad and envious like its supposed to be me i feel like im getting left behind and losing my place i just cant get any response from a job i just want to know if i am in the wrong
Yta for making me read this run on nonsense.
yta. you shouldn’t hate your girlfriend for getting a job. she didn’t do anything wrong.
why don’t you ask her dad if he can help you get a job at the same place?
YTA. If you can’t be happy for your girlfriend, you have no business being with her.
YTA. A large reason why you probably don’t get interviews is because of your lack of grammar. You’re an ass hole for comparing though, don’t do that. You’re young, keep your head up.
Her success is not your failure. Success is not a pie!
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I hope you’re not bothering to apply for jobs that require basic literacy.
YTA: “it’s supposed to be me”?!? No, take your envy and figure out what to do. Don’t “apply like crazy,” talk to someone—maybe her dad or manager (and keep your anger in check)—to figure out where you could work, what you could do. Who might be willing to help connect you.
Yes, a lot of it is luck, a lot of getting a job is connections, but nobody owes you a job and being mad and jealous isn’t going to get you luck or connections.
Wut? You got no hustle and you choose to blame your gf and then want people to excuse you? You need to gtown up and own up, buckaroo.
YTA, jealousy looks bad on everyone. You’re young, you aren’t being left behind. You haven’t even graduated yet. Just be happy and supportive of your girl and keep your focus on getting a job of your own. You shouldn’t be angry about this.
Part of the problem on your part might be the lack of grammar, though. Sentences, man. Reading your post hurt my soul. If you’re about to graduate, you should have a basic understanding of sentence structure. Utilize it.
This isn’t right for the sub, but before this gets deleted I want you to hear some important things.
She didn’t take anything from you. Jealousy does not put food on your plate or clothes on your back and brings no good thing to your life.
It isn’t that you don’t want her to gve a job, you just want to also have a job, right? So what if you reverse the situation? If you had a job and she didn’t, what would you say to her? How would you feel about her? Odds are it’s the same shoes she is in.
Jobs can be hard to come by, but right now is not forever. The way you deal with it, and the choices you make about who you want to be, those are the things that matter.
Do not let the success of a person you love make you bitter; do not take *your* feeling of inadequacy out on her or make her responsible to make you feel better about her having connections.
Soft YTA – and my dude, this is 100% a YOU problem that you need to get a handle on before you find yourself dating a sock and hand lotion, because if you can’t be happy and supportive of your girlfriend now, without feeling you deserve more than her, then you will stay a single adolescent until you’re 50 and beyond.
YTA. Work on your grammar when you’re applying because if you’re filling out applications the way you’re typing here, I’d skip you too. Secondly, being sad you don’t have a job is fine. However, don’t you DARE make that girl feel bad for getting a job and doing something that’s good for her.
You’ll get a job eventually. My brothers had good luck with golf courses and landscaping crews out of highschool, depending on where you live you could sign up to be a wildfire firefighter. The last one is dangerous but a friend’s boyfriend did it for years and made good money doing that.
Connections are 90% of job opportunities, ask for help from everyone… Just say “hey do you know anyone who is hiring”.
Why is it supposed to be you? Shouldn’t it be both of you?
It’s normal to be anxious about the future, but this level of envy isn’t normal, especially for your gf.
Take a breath, and realize you’ll get your chance, too.
YTA, but gently, for now. You’re young, and you’ll figure it all out.