okey so here’s a bit of context;the thing is that im (18F) and my cousin is (19M) and he is a bit famous on my family for liking some of our cousins.Well a couple months ago i had to spend the night at a hotel for Christmas,new year.. etc. soo the second night we were talking (we were the only ones awake by then) so the point is,he starts talking abt some weird stuff which i ignored at first but then it got worse.
He told me that i look good that day and that he was feeling a bit different abt me,he asked “do you wanna have a little secret between us?” i didn’t know what to say but the only words that came out were “idk what to tell u since were literally family” and next thing i did was turn around and go to sleep(yes,we were on the same bed BUT we weren’t alone dw)
Next morning came and i wasn’t able to look at hon on the eyes,cuz every time i did,i would remember what happened that night.
Idk what to do and i gotta see him in a couple days again..🫤
YIKE! Def NTA. Stay as far away from that bozo as possible!
NTA, I am sorry if your family is protecting him if they know. Unacceptable and gross 🙁
EDIT: do NOT be in same room as him alone. Stay safe
90% of rapists are someone you know….. nta.
Who put you guys in the same room and bed? What???? Don’t kid yourself. Family knows about his issues. This is not something you can deal with. Immediately tell your parents. And there’s likely denial so your only choice is to refuse contact and never allow yourself to be alone with him. Also if there’s other cousins, better have a chat with them. Some may know already and it’s possible that there are more victims. Warn away younger cousins.
NTA – damn this shit is nuts, don’t care if family or not steer clear of him at all times and never be alone with him.
NTA. Stay away and tell your parents. He should not be alone with any of you.
“I’m terrible at keeping secrets! They just fly right out of my mouth! Haha! HAHA!” And don’t speak to him otherwise. NTA
NTA at all!! This guy sounds like a creep even if he wasn’t family. Maybe you can play sick and stay away from the family gathering where he is?
And if you have anyone safe to talk to I’m your family, even other cousins he’s crept on before, tell them privately that he propositioned you and ask that they help you not be alone with him and not share a bed with him. If you can’t avoid him there’s safety in numbers, so if he’s talking to you alone she can see and pull you away to help with something or at least join the convo so he can’t be too creepy. And when it comes to sleeping arrangements she can be like OP and I already agreed to share, you share with one of the guys.
I’m sorry you’re stuck with a creep like this. If your family knows about it, sounds like there are older generation people (maybe his parents) who are enabling this behavior or at least not stopping it. Any adults who know how he behaves and still lets him spend the night in a room with female cousins is part of the problem and you shouldn’t feel bad cutting them off along with him. But now you’re becoming one of the adults of the family too, and eventually hopefully you’ll have the strength and confidence and financial independence to be able to speak out about it. Good luck!