AITA for the joke we played on my friend and the guy he was with?

19m good friends with this guy 18m name him Alex, we went out with other friends and went back to my building for afters. Alex has recently started speaking again with a friend of his from school name him peter. there was always like a recognised tension between them but they didn’t do anything about it and stopped talking when they went to uni but are now back chatting and met up a few times apparently. Alex brought Peter that night, they end up making out a bit and then he also came back with us to my flat.

They disappear and I hear from another friend idk how he knew this that they’re making out on the stairs. Specially the 11th floor. building has 11 floors there’s lifts that go into these connector rooms with doors to each flat and also there’s stairs that run up into each of these connector rooms too. But on my side of the building on the 11th there’s no flats just locked doors. So they were up on the stairs outside the 11th floor because well no one’s going to be up there at that time.

Earlier we were talking to my flatmate who’s ex Jehovah’s Witnesses and someone else jokingly asks if they do that thing those American Mormons do on TikTok where they jumpscare people doing more than holding hands in public. So hearing what Alex and Peter are doing i, as a joke, suggest we go do that to them.

So we all take the lift up to open the door to the stairs from that side to surprise them. Now I didn’t see personally I was behind them but apparently Peter was zipping himself back up and Alex was getting up from a lowered position. We all basically run away to the lift with the others laughing loudly but I wasn’t.

I speak to Alex the next day, he explains himself that his building is very strict with not signed in guests after 11 so they couldn’t go back there and it was peters idea. (My buildings really chill tbf he’s not wrong)

Then he goes on about how mad at me he is. I tried to explain it was a joke and it’s kinda on them for doing that on a stairway? But he seemed genuinely upset not just at the embarrassment but also he apparently really likes Peter and we ruined whatever was happening there, not in terms of how they’re getting on they’re still chatting and I think potentially getting a date sorted. Specifically Alex getting to suck him on the stairs getting ruined was what he was sad about, he didn’t put it like that but it’s what he meant.

I did say i agree it was an annoying thing to do even if they were just making out, but it’s not something he should be getting worked up other either. First of all when we left they could’ve continued, and I tried to lighten the mood by saying I’m sure Peter will be happy enough to give him the chance again. Also I probably did him a favour because Alex is a virgin like completely and if he really likes this guy, first time doing something maybe could be somewhere little more intimate? Alex gets even more mad at that and conversation ends.

14 thoughts on “AITA for the joke we played on my friend and the guy he was with?”
  1. Obviously YTA. Always so weird that people think bullying counts as a “joke” if you claim to be friends with the person. 

  2. YTA It’s really creepy that you interfered while you knew they were making out. Are you jealous?

  3. YTA. Atleast your able to admit your intentions were to police your friends intimacy. Please talk to someone to unpack why you give a damn about that.

  4. YTA

    Why do you think it’s funny to intrude on people’s privacy? 

    Why do you think that its a good idea to get in the way of someone you call a friend when they are finally moving forward with a person you know they are into?

    And you really think had it been you and a person you liked that they would’ve been down to just keep going after your friends killed the mood?  I know I wouldn’t be. 

    YTA for the idea, YTA for treating your “friend” as though his feelings don’t matter.  YTA to Peter who didn’t deserve to be the butt of your “hilarious” prank. 

  5. He’s upset because you interrupted them and turned their encounter from something exciting into something embarrassing. Interrupting and embarrassing them was exactly the point of your entire “joke.” It’s not at all surprising that he didn’t appreciate it. YTA.

  6. YTA, but it’s super sweet that you’re concerned that your friend loses his virginity properly. /sarcasm/eyeroll emoji

  7. YTA. If the person you’re pranking isn’t laughing it’s not a prank, it’s bullying.”I agree it was an annoying thing to do even if they were just making out” shows you know it was wrong and unfunny. Just apologize to your friend instead of trying to rationalize what you did was OK.

  8. ESH. You’re 19, not 11. Deliberately intruding on people’s privacy isn’t a joke.

    >speak to Alex the next day, he explains himself that his building is very strict with not signed in guests after 11 so they couldn’t go back there and it was peters idea

    Well, how do they feel about nudity in the hallways? I’m pretty sure they would frown on that, too.

  9. Yta big time. It’s one thing to accidentally walk in on it but you purposely went there to in my opinion to try and embarrass them. Shane on you and the others for being such shitty humans

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