Ok so as the title says me and my boyfriend have been together for two years me 18 him 20. We’re gonna call him Jack for privacy purposes. but he recently decided to join the military and we’ve been on a rocky stretch since I turned 18.(back in November)
His parents hate my guts, and they can’t know that we’re together, and I used to live with all of them him and his parents and after I turned 18 they essentially convinced him to kick me out and after that we had broken up for maybe two weeks and got back together and since then my needs haven’t been met, but his has and I was feeling really shitty about myself so I talked to him about it and he was like I’m sorry I’m trying my best. We’ll see what we can do but nothing really changed and I needs still weren’t being met so I had offered up what if we went Polly and he thought it was a great idea so we did so then my needs were met and he could browse. also, a little background is about a year or a year and a half ago he had offered up becoming Polly and I told him I was like I don’t really know anyone that I would want to be in a poly relationship with so this isn’t like an out of the blue thing. It’s something he’s thought about before and for a while since that conversation we had been swingers.
Well a few months ago, we both agreed to open the relationship and become Polly where we both are still dating each other, but we each date others on the side well I had been trying different dating apps like Tinder bumble, etc. and I was seeing some guys, but none of them were really interesting to meet up with in person and within the past two weeks I joined Facebook dating of all things and found a lot of really cute guys in my area that I like and one of our rules that we have to immediately tell each other like hey I’m talking to this person and I think we might meet up so that’s what I’ve been doing and the past two weeks. I have met up with four or five different dudes and I’ve told him everything that happens well with these guys, but he just told me tonight that he is jealous that I am able to find people and he’s having no luck and since getting on Facebook dating.
I’ve really been reconsidering this relationship for a hot minute now because my needs haven’t been met and there’s been no real big change to try to help that except now we have designated Thursdays. He comes over to hang out but it’s only for like 30 minutes nowadays and I love him to death. I really do but I realized after joining Facebook dating and talking to these guys and how they make me feel I think I’m way more confident in myself so reddit. What’s your advice and I’ll try to give an update as soon as I have some juicy tea.
Ok so not really a big update but Jack said that he’s worried and jealous because he’s scared I’m going to leave him or in his words replace him but I’m not planning on it and now he’s more worried because he doesn’t know how I feel but I don’t even know how I feel. I love him and don’t want to leave but I’m kinda stuck in an in pass because park of me wants to give up while other part wants to try to work it out but on a lighter note and said he’s going to try to see me more often and take me out a few dates here soon
NTAH. Break it off with him.
what the fuck are you getting out of this relationship lmao leave his ass
In complete honesty, nothing really, but he keeps saying that once he gets into the military, it’ll get better
I don’t see how adding new stressors to the equation is going to help.
That’s Vaild I just don’t know if me breaking up with him is the right call because he’s about to leave here in like two months
Just end it. It’s a relationship in name only already anyway.
No. It won’t
All I know is that you better patch things up before he’s a sitting a duck for Israel, the Middle East is an aerial minefield rn.
you see him once a week for like 30 minutes and he’s okay with that?? NTA, I would absolutely leave him. your partner should actively want to spend time with you and be supportive and caring. if this is the attitude he’s bringing into dating apps I’m not surprised he’s been unable to get a date 😬
It sounds like you’re ready to move on. It also doesn’t sound like there’s a reason to stay… 30 minutes once a week? That’s side piece hours.
Dump the man, have some fun, discover who you are, and try ENM later with someone who isn’t outsourcing your needs to Facebook dating.
Start planning on it as he has already. Do what you need to make you feel good, his parents don’t know so he has made up his mind to listen to them and not you. You don’t want a mommas boy