About a year ago I broke my phone and about that time I was visiting my grandparents. When I was at my grandmas house she asked me how I was doing so I told her that I was doing alright but recently I broke my phone at work. And she gave me 6000 CZK (about 285 USD) and my grandpa gave me 2000 CZK (about 95 USD) so together they gave me 8000 CZK (about 380 USD) they gave me the money to buy a new phone. I know that’s a lot of money so I refused to take it but they insisted and after about 20 minutes of them giving me the money and me giving the money back I gave up thanked them and took it. She told me to not to tell my parents that she gave me the money but for some reason she told it to my uncle and now after a year my uncle told it to my parents. They asked my grandma about it and she told them that she gave me whole 8000 CZK and grandpa gave me some money too. My parents are now mad at me for taking the money even though I refused the money several times. And they also believe that my grandparents gave me more money than I am saying they gave me. They gave me the money in cash so I can’t prove that they didn’t gave me more. And after that I paid 11 000 CZK more from my part time job to afford that phone. My grandma also texted my mom saying that she was happy to help me afford that phone and I even offered to gave that money back to my grandparents. But my parents still think that they gave me more money and they are also pissed about the fact that I didn’t tell the about the fact my grandparents gave me the money. So am I the asshole in this situation?
No. Youre not. And also you’re grandparents wanted to help. So you’re not the asshole you’re the victim. Also it was a year ago you’re parents probably think the money should’ve gone to them.
NTA. You tried to refuse and only accepted after they insisted.
NTA I am guessing you are an adult because you mention work. I do not think you were wrong for accepting your grandparents’ offer of money for a new phone (unless they both have dementia). I also don’t think you are wrong for not telling your parents about it since you are an adult and grandparents do receive pleasure from treating their grandchildren unless you were baiting them into buying you one and I don’t think you were. I understand you were following your grandparents’ wishes to not tell your parents. It is unfortunate that the grandparents do not remember exactly how much they gave you which is causing your mother to distrust your account. You are NTA.
NTA, both you and your grandparents both told them that you tried to refuse the money and only took it after they insisted many times.
If your grandma gave it to you willingly, that’s her decision. Adults are allowed to choose what they do with their own money, and accepting a gift doesn’t automatically mean you took advantage of someone. Unless there was manipulation or pressure involved, it sounds like she simply wanted to help you.