18m I have a really close relationship with my F19 best friend. She’s talked about liking me for ages and I personally thought it was a joke bc I’m chopped and she’s a 10/10 but she doesn’t know I actually like men. The other day it was her 19th birthday and she wanted me to send her a picture of my dick as a present. Which I as any normal person would thought it was a joke and started saying shit like if only it was small enough to fit in a picture. But on her birthday she asked for the picture and I sent her just a shirtless one saying happy birthday. She then proceeded to get pissed off at me and won’t talk to me. I’ve even had friends coming up to me saying she was so excited you’ve kept her waiting this long. What do I do guys I don’t want to send her it bc we are best friends and I’m gay.
Update: thanks for all the advice. I ripped off the bandaid and told her I was gay. She left it on opened and then started spamming me saying that doesn’t stop me from showing her my dick and that it’s just a simple birthday present and shes not going to do anything with it. Should I actually do it to shut her up? Or maybe show it to her in person so she can’t share a picture around.
NTA but your friend is. It’s a weird ask of a friend and she needs to learn that no means no.
Don’t be pressured into doing something that makes you uncomfortable or do not want to do. If she cannot accept that, maybe she isn’t as much of a friend as you thought.
NTA. She is manipulative by now not talking to her. I personally would cut her off for that. You don’t want to send it, period case closed. No room for discussion. Tell her she’s immature to get her friends involved and your body isn’t for her to control. She’s using peer pressure, don’t fall for it.
This person is not your friend. NTA.
NEVER send nudes to someone – once it’s out there, you can’t take it back. Who knows what she will do with it and who she will show it to? The only people who should be getting to see you in the buff are those you trust.
NTA
She’s being weird.
NTA. She’s creepy AF to keep requesting nudes from you. And you don’t owe her an explanation either – she shouldn’t need to know you’re gay for her to stop being a creep.
However, it may be worth your while to clearly voice that you won’t be sending nudes of yourself to her, and that you aren’t interested in her like that.
NTA. Your friend is freaking weird af for that. That is not normal…. Also you’re allowed to have boundaries and it’s very important that you set them!
NTA
You said no. That’s the end of it.
Your “friend” has problems respecting other people’s boundaries.
!@#$ I’m glad I’m not young any more…
You can send her mine if you’d like.
That’s not a best friend. That’s someone who likes you and the moment you don’t satisfy the needs of a boyfriend she will either stop being your friend or keep trying to get you to like her.
Also this whole situation is weird asf.
NTA. I would never send that picture.
There is a thing called revenge porn, and if she gets this pissed because you didn’t give her what she wanted, this is a real risk with her.
This is sexual harassment and very inappropriate.
Do you feel comfortable coming out to her?
NTA I think she does really like you. No one gets that excited over a friend’s nudes unless there’s more there. You don’t have to come out to her if you’re not ready but you do need to tell her you are not interested in her and set boundaries on these things. Like no requesting my nudes lol
NTA
You said no. What part of that does she not respect?
Imagine if this post was written the other way around and you were demanding a photo of her breasts?
Unfortunately she wants more that you are able to give her. I think it’s time to walk from this friendship.
nta. she’s sexually harassing you, and enlisting others to do the same. avoid this person and anyone who sides with her, this is very creepy and very wrong.
NTA- This does not pass the gender flip test. Imagine that you were listening to a man complain that his friend (not girlfriend) wouldn’t send him pics of her boobs, and now he’s angry at her. Imagine that he keeps asking her out and she keeps denying, and he keeps insisting. See what I mean? Anyone in their right mind would call that predatory behavior and be yelling at him that no means no.
You don’t owe anyone photos of your body. You don’t owe anyone an explanation of why you’re not going to send them photos of your body. You don’t owe anyone a date because they like you. No is a full sentence. This friend is not your friend.
Don’t send her any penis pictures. That is a very wrong ask. Stick to your NO. Your friends aren’t friends.