hi reddit.. using a throwaway here since my older brother (unfortunately) is aware of my main and i reaallly don’t want him to see this, as i’m pretty much avoiding bringing up this mess with my immediate family anyhow. i’m not used to posting and i’m not great at writing at all so i apologize for any grammatical error or weird wording haha.
anyways, to cut to the chase, my 27F sister had recently moved back down south to live with my 17F family. after college, she was unfortunately down on her luck with finding a job in her current area and coincidentally, a spot in the nearby town had an opening for a position that she was just right for. noting that she was freshly moved back in here, most of her stuff hadn’t arrived with her, in which it would be arriving in the following days… and with that, her clothing options were limited. on the day of her scheduled interview, she came to me for advice on which outfit of hers to wear. all seemed decently fine options to me, i’m no fashionista but they were clearly modest and didn’t look out of the ordinary and seemed presentable, atleast from what i seen.
she showcased three and i picked what i had viewed as the best fitting for the interview, a button up, blazer, appropriate length skirt.. looked nice, etc etc. and with that, she took off and set to secure a job…… or so what we had hoped. apparently, much to my knowledge, there was a small hole in the seams of her tights, in the back around her mid thigh, that had ripped open further, ripping open the back. it sounds like a movie scene, i know, and it was almost laughable until i was confronted by my sister, her shoving the ripped tights in my face, flashing the proof in my face. turns out they must’ve ripped when she sat down, and after she got up it was spotted by the interviewers, apparently there was two?, and was called out to wear something more appropriate.. that it was the bare minimum to atleast “try to make a good impression” and “show up in your best attire” and that it would be expected of their employees saying, if she couldn’t do that than it was believed this workplace wouldn’t be the best fit for her.
she was excused as this pretty much concluded the interview, and just like that her last hope was shattered. i feel so so guilty for this and now im being totally flamed but not only her but my mother, as she was really relying on this possible job. i don’t have any friends to talk about this to, so im coming to reddit. aita?
You’ll get a lot more engagement here if you break this up into paragraphs! 🙂
NTA: They don’t even know for sure it was already there. She tore her tights. It’s very unlikely you could see a micro tear in any case. They’re just looking for someone to blame.
NTA – She didn’t know there’s a hole when putting it on?
I definitely know when I have holes on my pants. Even the smallest one.
This is all on her – she chose to leave it to the last minute with limited options. I would’ve checked my options the night before to be sure it’s good to go or I have to do very last minute shopping.
NTA. Nobody’s fault. But if what the sister is saying is true, the interviewers are the AHs. If I interviewed someone and they had a run in their stockings I would not care.
NTA….she should be thanking you for saving her from working for a company that would act that way. Although, I’m guessing sis made that up out of whole cloth
NTA . Sounds like the interview was destroyed by a surprise tights malfunction, twhich means it’s wardrobe betrayal, not fashion advice malpractice.
It feels unlikely that a professional interview ended on people judging her for a rip in stockings that could have just happened.
I don’t believe they said it.
I don’t believe she heard it. I don’t believe that she blamed you.
I don’t believe that anyone would think this was her fault. I don’t believe that anyone would think this was your fault.
Yea this feels written by someone who doesn’t know what job interviews are like.
NTA, and your sister needs to chill out. First of all because this is called dodging a bullet. If she had gotten the job I guarantee that after less than a year she’d be complaining about completely arbitrary and inconsistent management expectations. A run in stocking fabric can happen to anyone. Second because when it comes to clothes, among adults with no particular limitation, the buck stops with the wearer. You aren’t responsible for a hole you didn’t see.
NTA. You didn’t know. Also, she dodged a bullet.
NTA on the off chance this is real. This feels more like your sister tanked the interview and then needed to blame someone else somehow. Assuming what they said is true, it sounds like a super toxic workplace if a torn stocking can cause this much chaos.
NTA – If you’d noticed the hole and not said anything, then you would be. But it’s not up to you to inspect every inch of her outfit. How is it that you bear more responsibility to make sure she’s dressed appropriately than she does? I mean, she’s 27. She should be able to dress herself appropriately without help from a 17-year-old.
I also question if that’s the real reason she didn’t get the job. I’ve done interviews before. And I would never turn down a well-qualified applicant for something as simple as a torn stocking. While I have no way of knowing for sure, I wonder if she just didn’t blow the interview. And is looking for someone to blame.
Tbh if the hole was mid thigh and visible it sounds like the skirt was too short so combine that with ripped tights, it was all probably a bit much. Gen Z definitely has different standards as to what’s appropriate for an interview and most businesses will say anything above the knee is risky. Not trying to argue about “what is/isn’t appropriate” just saying that’s how older people are going to think.
That aside, I’d say NTA. The rips could’ve happened at any point or might not been visible at the time. The interviewers must’ve been men if they got upset about a hole in some tights, that happens very easily. It wasn’t anyone’s fault, sounds like your sister is better off not working for some AH who are going to make a big deal about some ripped tights.
NTA and if either she’s lying or the interviewers are so sexist nobody should work for them. Also, how does anyone know the hole was there when you gave your opinion.
Also, I’ve been to an interview that was incredibly high stakes at an embassy to work abroad. I was 24. Y’know what I did about my tights? I brought two extra pairs in my purse, so when I inevitably had a run in one, I could change. So, even if the hole was there, it’s still on your sister to manage her own clothes as an adult.