I am a manager of a large admin team. We all get on really well.
When i was promoted into the manager role from another department, there was a team member who also had an interview and met the criteria but was not offered a role at the time because i scored higher.
Recently another post has become available and she has moved into a manager role.
I do not like this person, she does not do much work, was difficult to manage, flits around the office and "plays devils advocate", which is really just her stirring up drama when conflict has been resolved.
She is a very loud person with a lot of feelings, not opinions, not ideas. Feelings!
She asks a lot of questions, which is good, and i encourage that for learning. But when the answer she gets isn’t the one she wants, she pouts and is very negative.
She does not want to give out difficult messages and is not target driven.
Here’s where i might be TAH. I am avoiding her, if i have to train her then i will, if we are in meetings together then i will engage. But days like today where she is being very loud and distracting in and open office, despite being asked to focus/allow others to focus. I have moved away to a small side room.
I tried to train her earlier in the week and she just said "uuuuummmmmmm" and then didn’t do what i had shown her, later saying that she didn’t like how i did something (it was an attendance check, following a HR policy, not my own way of doing something).
I have tried to show her something this morning and she just kept interrupting me. So I have paused her training and asked another manager to take over.
So i feel like i’m being a bit of a mean girl by moving away from her.
AITAH
NTA
Whatever you do, approach it professionally. You do not want your feelings about her to derail your career and have people think you are the problem. You never have to be friends, but don’t do anything where someone can look down on you for what happened.
NAH. It sounds like your personalities just don’t match. You did what was best: moving away from the situation. You would only have been an asshole if you had also complained about her personality.
You cant resolve it by yourself and by hiding away from her and your duties. You need to talk to HR.
Document document document.
NTA- I work in the same team as a woman I dislike. She loud, obnoxious and rude. I avoid speaking to her as much as possible. Ultimately you aren’t going to like everyone that you work with.
Just steer clear of anything that could be described as ‘bullying’ but avoiding someone isnt misconduct.
Same. Always braying like a donkey or cackling like a drunken witch. I literally can’t stand the sound of her voice. Thank god we only work part time in the office. I pretend she doesn’t exist.
In a previous job, i had to do my own work plus fit ìn on the job training, assessments and sort out issues with customers
A couple of team members i woulnt waste a phone call on if they collapsed, however.during working hours i had a couple of team members like the person you mention in your post.
Sometimes people like that will never.change, so my solution was to be professional as i was paid to deal with these pillocks, during work hours rhey were treated like all others in the team.
The differance was to effectively give em enough rope as the saying goes, you can only train or advise people who are willing, so be proffesional move back to your old desk, given time the person will keep screwing up and will get called out
NTA – folks like this truly are in the wrong work setting. I won’t promote folks like this nor will I hire them if I can sense this behavior in the interview. How incredibly annoying
NTA. However document her behavior and report her refusal to be trained.
NTA. As long as you behave professionally and can document your interactions with this individual, you should be on solid ground.
Document your problems with her and the issues she is causing so you get her fired. If shes not doing her job she needs to go
I have gotten someone fired before because they weren’t doing their job which in turn made my job harder. I didn’t like that.