Background:
I (M31) and my wife (F30) have a toddler. We both WFH. My wife had two cats before we met, they are both 10+ years old. I have OCD and really dislike them.
I work in the basement, while my wife works upstairs. The basement is where the cat items are. One of the cats puked in the basement shortly before lunchtime. My wife only gets 30 minutes for lunch and likes to spend time with our child during that time. When she came down for lunch at 12, I told her that the cat got sick in the basement. She said that she would clean it up later. At 12:57, I texted her asking if she had taken care of the puke. She said that she "completely forgot" but would take care of it after her meeting at 1.
She came down at 1:30 to clean it up and we started talking about it. She said that she made a mistake and forgot about it. Then I said she "wasn’t allowed to forget." She got mad at me and we had an argument about it. She said that what I said was controlling and that I said she’s not allowed to make mistakes. I argue that what I said was reasonable and that most people would assume that I meant that she wasn’t allowed to forget about the cat vomit. I obviously didn’t mean that she couldn’t forget about anything at all, only cat vomit.
AITA for what I said?